Posts filed under ‘sexual predator’

Is Bill Cosby Our Sacred Cow?

reprinted from Black Woman Unleashed magazine 1/19/2015

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When I was growing up, my mother said “Stay away from strangers.” What she didn’t tell me was to also be careful of people I knew. I know she was right about strangers because on a bus ride home one evening while in high school, a man exposed himself to me. I was horrified and told the bus driver. Why would someone do that? Mom could only say “He was sick.”

When my daughter started growing up, my words to her were “Don’t get into the car with anybody except me, your dad or your grandmother”. We kept her list very short. You could count the people on one hand.

Which brings me to the Bill Cosby controversy. Last year when I began hearing the reports that Dr. Cosby was accused of sexually assaulting multiple woman (more than 20 years ago), I decided he had either stopped paying off his blackmailer or someone was out to malign the gentle, friendly Dr. Huxtable. Who would want to do that to lovable Bill Cosby?

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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Author & Mentor

www.clynnwilliams.com

January 21, 2015 at 4:48 am Leave a comment

Keep Your Hands (and Other Body Parts) to Yourself

SexualAbuse2At the risk of sounding insensitive, I admit that I have gotten desensitized to news about priests and coaches molesting boys and girls. It happens so often, it seems like daily news. I don’t like it, and it seems to take forever for the truth to come out (the kids are usually adults). Of course, nobody believes that a man of the cloth or a favorite coach is touching our kids inappropriately. Wake up America! Did it ever occur that the ‘acting out’ that our kids are doing, may be related to a secret they are ashamed to tell you?

What I still can’t stomach, is when our teen girls tell us (mothers) that they are being sexually molested by their fathers, stepfathers, uncles (family members) and we don’t listen. What is that about? As I mentor teen girls and young women, I want to say that I’m shocked that mothers prefer to believe their (in some cases) pedophile boyfriend to their own daughter. The sex can’t be that good. To make matters worse, you kick your daughter out, because you can’t possibly believe her. Now what is she supposed to do?

Remember the movie Precious? Precious’ mother knew her husband (Precious’ biological dad) was having sex with his daughter and had fathered Precious’ two children. Yuck! But it happens, probably more often than we care to admit, and it’s a dirty little family secret – especially if a child is born. If there was ever a reason for castration, sexually molesting your kid, niece, nephew or granddaughter is number one as far as this mother is concerned! What are your thoughts?

C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Parent Coach

Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Communications, 2013)

February 6, 2014 at 12:35 pm Leave a comment

The Elusiveness of Predators

Reading that story about the Penn State coach who’s accused of having sex with several young boys, I don’t know if I was more disturbed that the innocence of the boys was stolen forever, or that the head coach and Athletic Dir felt it necessary to hide the truth for a few years; probably shushing the grad advisor who saw and told. In any event, it’s a tragedy on many levels. Those boys (now teens) will never feel safe again and how do we as parents protect our children against sexual predators who are protected by the places that employ them? MsParentguru

November 8, 2011 at 4:40 am 1 comment


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