Posts tagged ‘resilience’
Raising Responsible Kids: How Small Tasks Build Big Character
Ms. Parentguru reflects on the importance of household chores in childhood, emphasizing how they teach responsibility, character, and a sense of ownership. By entrusting children with tasks slightly beyond their abilities, parents foster growth and encourage a mindset focused on contribution rather than entitlement, ultimately shaping a strong work ethic and resilience.
Raising Future Leaders: Ways Parents Can Foster Leadership in Kids
Raising a confident and empathetic child involves nurturing leadership skills through teamwork, proactive behavior, emotional intelligence, and exposure to diverse cultures. Encouraging a growth mindset and volunteering enhances adaptability and social responsibility. These approaches shape a child’s future, preparing them for challenges and opportunities while promoting personal growth and resilience.
How to Motivate Our Kids
Did you ever take music lessons or practice a sport to become the best? It’s called deliberate practice and there are important life skills that children learn when they practice becoming better at something. One lesson that comes up for me is resilience. My daughter wanted to take dance lessons, and once she started attending the class, she decided she didn’t like it and wanted to quit. That happens often with children. They will like something because their friends like it. The challenge is getting them to stick it out until a natural ending like a concert or the season ends. Requiring them to finish at a natural ending point, teaches them tolerance.
You see it a lot in some cultures where practice is relentless, but the outcomes are amazing. I think about the Olympics and Russians gymnasts. They excel because of their over-the-top work ethic. I also think about Chinese students and music. Practice makes their performances better!
This deliberate practice requires us (as parents) to perform our show and tell. It’s one thing to tell your child to go and practice their clarinet. It’s quite a different feeling when you share with them that on your job or in your business, you have goals to attain and the better that you are at setting those goals, the better you are at mastering them and achieving them or smashing them!
We have an opportunity as parents, to build excellence no matter what your economic or social standing. When your kids are with you, get them to do more of what they like and practice it until it is amazing. You notice I’m not saying perfect because perfect means there’s no room to grow and be better and there’s always room to grow and be better. I’m also suggesting that you allow them to do something that they like, as opposed to what you like for them. It’s less of a struggle…
By the way, this is not just a skill for musically and sports inclined children. For the kids who love academics; who love reading; who love writing; who love tech; help them find tune that skill and motivate them to become outliers.
An outlier is a person that stands out from all other members of a particular group or set. They stand out! That’s a positive thing. Our children are born with gifts that require motivation, nurturing and fine-tuning to stand out. As parents, this is what we can offer our children:
- A safe home environment
- Food to eat
- Love
- Encouragement
- Structure
- Hope
Sometimes the gifts that live inside of our child, are quite different from ours or anyone within our family. It doesn’t make the gift wrong or strange… just different.
So practice motivating your child and that gift of theirs, while they are on summer break. If you haven’t already seen their brilliance peek out, keep watching.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
The Resilience of Youth
When my oldest daughter was five years old, we took a plane ride to California. The ride was V E R Y turbulent, and it was all I could do to keep calm and not run up and down the aisle screaming! To her, we were on a roller-coaster and it was fun!
Here we are many years later, dealing with a pandemic, the coronavirus, vaccines, work-from-home, remote learning, etc.
I find it hard to stay calm and positive.
But to our children: toddlers, a young child, your middle-school aged child; this is another moment in their life. A new adventure!
How you see the world, is how they see it.
Read further about what a group of UC Berkeley students is offering:
Looking to make friends and explore your interests during quarantine? Connect-In-Place is a FREE virtual program, launched by college students at UC Berkeley. We offer classes on everything from Intro to Programming to Bollywood Dance, as well as support groups and tutoring groups, all led by college students from top universities. So far we’ve served 3,300+ middle and high schoolers in our small, friendship-building classes. If you need some extra help, or just want to get excited about learning again, Connect-In-Place is the right community for you.
Session 5 (Feb 22 – March 20) sign-ups are open now and close Friday, February 19th at noon PT!
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Stay safe and have fun!
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
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