Staying Sane While Raising Your Teens

Is Your Son Missing His Behavior?

April 20, 2015 at 1:59 pm Leave a comment

For the last three years, since the death of Trayvon Martin, I have been watching a

parade of black boys and men who have been murdered. The highly publicized murders of young, black men like Trayvon Martin, Michael Brown, and Tamir Rice, killed by law enforcement officers, is just a drop in the bucket to those who are killed by other black or brown young men.

As a concerned mother who has two sons, I often wonder how it is that hundreds of young black men who are killed daily? “93% of blacks are killed by other blacks.” How is this happening under our watch? My theory goes back to the stories that I’ve written about in my book, The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son. While there are exceptions, many of us are single mothers raising our boys, who often have no positive male role models. As a former single mom, my son spent time with his father. We shared custody and for a while, my son lived with me. During that time, I enrolled him in the neighborhood YMCA, so that he could interact with positive men and not grow up in a predominantly female oriented household. My bonus son spent a lot of time playing sports and being mentored by a family friend who was a former NFL player.

Boys need to see positive men to pattern their behavior after. When you grow up in a household where the man gets up and goes to a job or operates a business daily, most likely that son will do the same thing. It is important that you give your son(s) responsibilities like chores, house rules and teach him to be accountable and responsible. When we don’t do that, we raise a generation of young undisciplined men who miss their behavior. Are you managing your son and his behavior, or is he managing you? #oursonsmatter 

The Pampered Prince

Interested in learning more about raising your son into an adult? Contact Ms. Parent Guru. Email her at: info@clynnwilliams.com

C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Author & Generational Development Strategist

www.clynnwilliams.com/site
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Publishing, 2013)

Entry filed under: Parenting. Tags: black men, law enforcement officers, Michael Brown, pampered prince, Tamir Rice, Trayvon Martin.