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đ What Do You Do When Your Teen Breaks Your Trust?
Rebuilding trust with your teen requires time and intentionality. Address one issue at a time, stay calm, and listen without judgment. Consistency and reassurance are crucial, as trust is rebuilt through open conversations, not just rules. Remember, honest dialogue strengthens connections even amidst challenges. Parenting isnât about perfection, but presence.
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Teaching Children to Express Emotions Healthily: 3 Tips…
Creating a safe and open environment is the first step in helping children express their emotions healthily. When children feel understood and supported, they are more likely to share their feelings openly and confidently.
Navigating the Emotional Terrain: Dealing with Homesick College Students
Homesickness is an emotion that transcends age and experience, but when it strikes college students, it can be particularly overwhelming. I experienced homesickness during my freshman year of college, and was miserable until 3 things happened.
The transition from the comfort of home to the independence of college life can trigger a wave of nostalgia and longing for familiar surroundings, family, and friends. In this blog, we’ll explore the common causes of homesickness in college students and provide practical tips to help them navigate this emotional journey.
Understanding the Causes
1. **Change in Environment:** The shift from living with family to dormitories or shared apartments can be jarring. Students suddenly find themselves in an entirely new environment, often far from home.
2. **Separation from Support Systems:** Leaving behind the support of family and close friends can create a void that feels hard to fill. The absence of familiar faces can intensify feelings of homesickness.
3. **Academic Pressure:** The demands of college can be mentally taxing. When coupled with homesickness, academic stress can feel even more burdensome.
4. **Social Adjustment:** Building new social circles takes time, and not everyone finds their tribe right away. Loneliness can exacerbate homesickness.
Tips for Coping with Homesickness
1. **Stay Connected:** Technology allows students to stay in touch with loved ones more easily than ever. Regular calls, video chats, or even surprise visits can help ease homesickness.
2. **Create a Home Away from Home:** Personalize your dorm room or living space with mementos from home. Familiar objects can provide comfort.
3. **Get Involved:** Join clubs, sports teams, or campus organizations to meet new people and create a sense of belonging.
4. **Establish Routines:** Structure your day with a consistent schedule. Having a routine can provide stability and reduce anxiety.
5. **Seek Support:** Most colleges offer counseling services. Don’t hesitate to reach out if homesickness is affecting your mental health.
6. **Explore Your New Environment:** Embrace the adventure of exploring your new surroundings. Finding hidden gems in your college town can be exciting and distracting.
7. **Practice Self-Compassion:** Understand that homesickness is a common emotion. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge your feelings without judgment.
8. **Set Realistic Expectations:** College life isn’t perfect, and it’s normal to have ups and downs. Recognize that homesickness is a temporary phase.
Conclusion
Homesickness is a natural part of the college experience. It’s a testament to the love and connections students have back home. By acknowledging these feelings and implementing coping strategies, students can not only survive but also thrive during their college years.
Remember, homesickness is just one chapter in the larger story of your academic journey, and it’s filled with countless opportunities for growth, learning, and new adventures.
By the way, the 3 things that helped me handle homesickness:
1. Time
2. A subscription to Daily Word (from my mom)
3. Making new friends
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author, Speaker & Filmmaker
Dinner Time is a Great Time to Talk
Now that the school year has started, I think about the conversations that my family and I had. We didnât have them every night, but considering how strict my parents were, our dinner time talks were pretty liberal.
They didnât always include both parents, and the âtalksâ continued once my parents divorced. Usually my mother, would start the âconversationâ for whatever topic my brother, sister and I, wanted to talk about. Usually it was a cross-section of just about anything from politics to what time curfew should be; most important, there were no taboo topics.
The beauty about the talks is that everybody extroverts and introverts (my brother and me) felt comfortable talking. By the way, if you have kids who donât like to talk a lot, then you say things that are funny or related but slightly crazy, and see what your family thinks. Hopefully everybody starts laughing and all of a sudden the dinner time talking has started.
I think what I like most about conversations during meals, is that you have the distraction of eating and the conversations donât seem as serious.
Depending on your parenting style, these conversations are a great time to learn more about your children and for them to learn about you as well, and to help you pick up on things that you will want to follow up on privately with whichever kid needs it, as well as sharing your views and family values.
There are lots of benefits to dinner time talk. At the very least, it helps you stay connected (with your kids), if you allow the conversations to flow easily. The more obvious reason is hopefully your child will more easily share concerns or issues with you, that are not easy to talk about. đđ˝ââď¸
If the best time to have a conversation with your your kids, is at breakfast, then talk at breakfast. đĽâď¸
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
How to Motivate Our Kids
Did you ever take music lessons or practice a sport to become the best? Itâs called deliberate practice and there are important life skills that children learn when they practice becoming better at something. One lesson that comes up for me is resilience. My daughter wanted to take dance lessons, and once she started attending the class, she decided she didnât like it and wanted to quit. That happens often with children. They will like something because their friends like it. The challenge is getting them to stick it out until a natural ending like a concert or the season ends. Requiring them to finish at a natural ending point, teaches them tolerance.
You see it a lot in some cultures where practice is relentless, but the outcomes are amazing. I think about the Olympics and Russians gymnasts. They excel because of their over-the-top work ethic. I also think about Chinese students and music. Practice makes their performances better!
This deliberate practice requires us (as parents) to perform our show and tell. Itâs one thing to tell your child to go and practice their clarinet. Itâs quite a different feeling when you share with them that on your job or in your business, you have goals to attain and the better that you are at setting those goals, the better you are at mastering them and achieving them or smashing them!
We have an opportunity as parents, to build excellence no matter what your economic or social standing. When your kids are with you, get them to do more of what they like and practice it until it is amazing. You notice Iâm not saying perfect because perfect means thereâs no room to grow and be better and thereâs always room to grow and be better. I’m also suggesting that you allow them to do something that they like, as opposed to what you like for them. It’s less of a struggle…
By the way, this is not just a skill for musically and sports inclined children. For the kids who love academics; who love reading; who love writing; who love tech; help them find tune that skill and motivate them to become outliers.
An outlier is a person that stands out from all other members of a particular group or set. They stand out! Thatâs a positive thing. Our children are born with gifts that require motivation, nurturing and fine-tuning to stand out. As parents, this is what we can offer our children:
- A safe home environment
- Food to eat
- Love
- Encouragement
- Structure
- Hope
Sometimes the gifts that live inside of our child, are quite different from ours or anyone within our family. It doesnât make the gift wrong or strange… just different.
So practice motivating your child and that gift of theirs, while they are on summer break. If you havenât already seen their brilliance peek out, keep watching.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
How to Build Accountability In Your Child
Happy New Year and no⌠this is not a list of resolutions for better parenting!
Having talked to quite a few parents during the Holidays who wanted their child to do what they were asked; Iâm reminded of two things:
- Keep it simple
- Hold your child accountable
As you tell your child for the 5th time to pick up his/her toys, clothes, etc. you might wonder what it will take for that delightful child of yours to become more accountable.
According to Century Dictionary, accountability is the state of being accountable or answerable; responsibility for the fulfilment of obligations; liability to account for conduct, meet or suffer consequences, etc.
The thing is, we want our kids to grow into accountable adults, which means that we want accountable teens, youths, toddlers.
So how do you get started?
Start nowâŚideally when your child is very young and impressionable. My daughter has been âguidingâ our 2½ year old grandson with picking up his toys, since he could walk. He understands what picking up toys means, how to do it and the consequences of leaving them all over the floor.
Is she 100% successful? Nope, but she and her husband have a great start provided they stay consistent with their work with him. It gets more challenging, if you are starting to with children who are older and arenât used to having to pick up after themselves.
Not impossible, but your work is cut out for you because your child wonât understand why all of a sudden, you are asking them to do something theyâve never had to do before.
3 tips for helping your child be more accountable:
- Model behavior (that you want to see repeated)
- Be as consistent as possible in holding your child responsible for what youâve asked them to do
- Help your child see things from another person’s viewpoint
Modeling the behavior, you want to see, is one of the skills that a leader uses. Itâs much easier to get your child to pick up their toys, clean their room, clean the bathroom, if they see you do the same.
Teaching your child to see things from anotherâs perspective builds empathy and compassion. If occasionally you have your daughter help her brother or sister clean their room, fold clothes or clean the kitchen, they may be less inclined to fight, argue and compete with each other.
Just a couple of thoughts as we enter 2022.
Interested in learning more about your familyâs dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for Aging Parents, Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and their Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and their Sons.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
It Is Okay to Feel What Youâre Feeling
We’ve been quarantined for 7 weeks now. It’s okay to express what you’re feeling.
Hey Mom Lose The Guilt!
It never surprises me when I ask a question to a mom and her daughter, and they have entirely different thoughts about how a particular experience or conversation turned out. Invariably the daughter may feel that the experience was worse than what her mom thought.
When that happens, mom feels like she has to defend her position. But itâs not the end of the world; just an opportunity to have a deeper understanding of what took place during that experience.
When my daughter was a teen, what I remember thinking was that I was a pretty understanding mom. According to my daughter, I was intolerant (and in her words – scary) đ.
The good news was that I had a choice. I could modify my behavior so that we could hear and understand each other or I could decide that we just didnât understand each other and never would. Feeling like a âbad parentâ was the bad news.
As a parent, there are lots of uncharted territory, and if you feel guilty every time you do something that backfires, youâll feel guilty A LOT! Plus your kids will use your guilt against you to get more privileges đ.
After listening to many stories about challenges and misunderstandings that mothers and daughters face, I began conducting Mother & Daughter Teas. These events are fun, generate laughter, dress up, silly photos, yummy foods, good feelings and authentic conversations. 
I conduct them in school settings, ideally on Saturdays (or Sundays after church). If you are interested in how this event can be conducted with your schoolâs parents reply to this email.
I have a limited number of dates between March and May, so donât wait!
Interested in learning more about your familyâs dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for Aging Parents, Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and their Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and their Sons.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
The Voices Heard Before Suicide
Suicide is a profound tragedy…
My daughter was a young girl when my brother committed suicide. I was devastated. He had been suffering with a chronic illness and told us he was praying to die, while we prayed for him to live.
He had talked about dying years before that because he was so unhappy. Suicide is seldom unplanned, and victims leave clues.
It is up to us to pay attention to those clues and intervene. That’s easy to say, and harder to do. There are lots of external influences that will make it challenging to notice the clues.
These days children are dealing with life issues that they don’t want to talk about. Bullying. Sexual abuse. Peer pressure. Parental expectations. Excelling in school. These issues are further exacerbated by the separatism that technology provides. Many of these issues young people face without appropriate coping skills. When an unpleasant event occurs they feel that life canât go on and so they attempt suicide or they are successful. đ¤Ż
I recently heard the story of a good kid who received detention at school and then was reprimanded by his s parents at home. Concerned that he had jeopardized his chances to get into a Ivy League school for college; he committed suicide. Did he leave any clues that he was fragile?
What about the girl who can no longer face school or online bullies and decides that suicide is a better alternative to living. What behaviors did her parents notice before she took her life?
How do we stop this madness?
Suicide is beyond devastating! Itâs really bad when it happens to a child that you think is safe; has a good life; and looks normal.
Are there warning signs? Theyâre probably arenât many if any unless you are watching intently and you are in tune with your child; even then thereâs no guarantee that you will be aware of whatâs going on.
Here is what I can tell you:
⢠Watch for changes of behavior
⢠Mood swings
⢠Quiet and withdrawn in an otherwise outgoing joyous kid
Thereâs no guarantee that youâll catch the clues then, but it least if you start a conversation beyond ‘how was your day’; if you talk about how to build resilience; if you let your child know that there is nothing worth taking their life over…
Have those hard conversations now when everything is good. Let your child know that correcting their behavior is your job, but that you are always proud of them and love them.
Interested in learning more about your familyâs dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for Aging Parents, Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and their Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and their Sons.
Click Here to become a part of my parenting community.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
How to Motivate Our Kids
Did you ever take music lessons or practice a sport to become the best? Itâs called deliberate practice and there are important life skills that children learn when they practice becoming better at something. One lesson that comes up for me is resilience. My daughter wanted to take dance lessons, and once she started attending the class, she decided she didnât like it and wanted to quit. That happens often with children. They will like something because their friends like it. The challenge is getting them to stick it out until a natural ending like a concert or the season ends. Requiring them to finish at a natural ending point, teaches tolerance.
You see it a lot in some cultures where practice is relentless, but the outcomes are amazing. I think about the Olympics and Russians gymnasts. I thought they excelled because of their over-the-top work ethic. I also think about Chinese students and music. Practice makes their performances better!
This deliberate practice requires us (as parents) to perform our show and tell. Itâs one thing to tell your child to go and practice their clarinet. Itâs quite a different feeling when you share with them that on your job or in your business, you have goals to attain and the better that you are at setting those goals, the better you are at mastering them and achieving them or smashing them!
Parents, we have an opportunity here to build excellence no matter what your economic or social standing. When your kids are with you, get them to do more of what they like and practice it until it is amazing. You notice Iâm not saying perfect because perfect means thereâs no room to grow and be better and thereâs always room to grow and be better. I’m also suggesting that you allow them to do something that they like, as opposed to what you like for them. It’s less of a struggle…
By the way, this is not just a skill for musically and sports inclined children. For the kids who love academics; who love reading; who love writing; who love tech; help them find tune that skill and motivate them to become outliers.
An outlier is a person that stands out from all other members of a particular group or set. They stand out! Thatâs a positive thing. Our children are born with gifts that require motivation, nurturing and fine-tuning to stand out. As parents, this is what we can offer our children:
- A safe home environment
- Food to eat
- Love
- Encouragement
- Structure
Sometimes the gifts that live inside of our child, are quite different from ours or anyone within our family. It doesnât make the gift wrong or strange… just different.
So practice motivating your child and that gift of theirs, while they are on summer break. If you havenât already seen their brilliance peek out, keep watching.
Click Here to become a part of my parenting community.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
Staying Sane While Raising Your Teens 
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