What Are the Rules?

I’m old enough to remember that rules were made for a reason and people followed them.

Sometimes we broke the rules by disobeying our parents, but not often because there were consequences.

We didn’t do things like throw paper or bags of food on the ground. We didn’t see our parents do it and there were fines if you got caught littering. Plus our parents or someone else gave us a hard time if we disobeyed “the rules”.

I think about how annoying some rules are and what their purpose is.

I love my freedom. So following the rules isn’t always easy for me. But I understand how important they are if I want to live harmoniously with people in my community and in my family.

Freedoms across the world are important too! So I stand in solidarity with my brothers and sisters, when we celebrate events like May Day, Cinco de Mayo and Juneteenth. I watch events in my community and around the world as rebellions reflect how unhappy people are with rules! Yet, without basic rules of conduct, civility and how we live, there is only chaos, not freedom.

I think about the importance of moms in our life. Mothers teach us and help us follow rules and they create customs that follow us for the rest of our lives.

It’s important for parents to share their values with their children, so they understand how they fit into the world and how to live harmoniously with others. The world is a better place when we respect each other and follow basic rules. Our kids are watching us.

By the way, it bugs me when people drive through the red light, don’t stop at stop signs, or beep at pedestrians because they are taking too long to cross the street. 😡

Let’s remember to live harmoniously and that we are all related as humans.

Smile at someone today.

Be courteous.

Let someone merge in front of you when you’re driving. Be a positive role model to your child. That’s my prayer for the month of May.

C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Author & parent coach

www.clynnwilliams.com

May 4, 2023 at 3:15 pm Leave a comment

OtoZen App Review: The Ultimate Driver Safety Companion

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When it comes to driving, it’s always best to be careful and drive defensively. I want my friends and family to feel safe when I’m behind the wheel, and I want them to stay safe when they’re driving, too.

But how can I be sure that my loved ones are driving safely? Especially with teens, as they are more sensitive about sharing their activities and whereabouts with parents. 

One of the most effective ways to ensure your loved ones are safe on the road is to use a driver safety app. These apps can help you maintain situational awareness and control at all times. This is why my family and I use one.

After trying a few others, OtoZen is my app of choice because of how easy it is to coordinate with multiple drivers on one platform. It helps me and my family stay safe on the road with its warning systems, real-time GPS, and Live Location features.

Why Is OtoZen the App of Choice for Driver Safety?

OtoZen has several features that encourage and help drivers stay safe on the roads. It offers everything from speeding and car use alerts to driving and family safety features that can help new and teenage drivers in your family. 

1. Speeding Alerts

OtoZen monitors the vehicle’s speed, alerting drivers when they exceed the speed limit in a particular area. This can help new and experienced drivers know the limit for each road, avoid costly speeding tickets, and stay aware of how fast they are driving.

2. Live Location Sharing

This feature allows drivers to share their location with family and friends. OtoZen also gives drivers the option to send their expected time of arrival (ETA), so their family and friends will know when to expect them. This can also ease parents’ minds, knowing when their teens arrive at their destination.

Live Location sharing lets users control who can see their movements on the road, providing privacy, safety, and security through one app.

3. Safe Driving Score

One of the best ways to become a better driver is through feedback. OtoZen provides Drive Scores for each trip that identify unsafe driving behavior like speeding and phone usage.

Monitoring phone usage brings attention to distracted driving, helping drivers stay focused and avoid distractions while operating a vehicle. The Drive Scores are an excellent way to improve driving habits and observe safe driving guidelines while traveling. This feature can also help teens build accountability.

4. Helps Your Family Members Pass Driving Tests

OtoZen is an excellent tool that can prepare teens for their driving tests. The app can log and share driving records with driving instructors at the local Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV).

Driver training schools can also use OtoZen to assess their students’ performance. They can quickly review which areas need improvement through the automatically generated driving log.

5. Accident Detection and Roadside Assistance

The app detects accidents and sends a 911 dispatch automatically. Whether minor or severe, OtoZen has 24/7 support services from certified dispatchers who notify emergency responders immediately in the event of a crash.

The dispatchers use the app’s Live Location feature to inform authorities of the vehicle’s exact location so they can send the nearest responders to the area.

6. Hands-free Driver Safety

The app lets drivers receive and send messages through their vehicle’s speakers, minimizing distractions. The hands-free feature also sends audio reminders for nearby errands and appointments and automatically notifies friends and family of trip progress and arrival times.

Is the App Worth It?

OtoZen can fulfill many needs and concerns regarding driver safety. 

Stay Connected

If you have a teen learning to drive or simply want to stay connected with friends and family, OtoZen is a great choice. You can monitor loved ones’ locations and know when they need your help. While your teen is old enough to do many things, that does not take away from ensuring their safety.

Improve Driving

Student drivers can use the Driver Scores feature to see how well they are doing. You can work with your teens and help them improve their skills, especially with an automatically generated report they can show to driving schools and the DMV.

Save Lives

The accident and roadside assistance features can save lives. Anyone is susceptible to accidents, especially teens who are learning to drive. You can quickly gain peace of mind with this app, as it automatically notifies you and emergency responders when an accident occurs and provides an exact location.  

Helpful Modes

It also uses different modes to observe a driver’s movements: driver and viewer. 

Viewer mode allows you to observe the vehicle’s movements, including the ETA, stops, and Driver Scores. Plus, you can view other vehicles that have shared their location with you and see their movement on the app under Live Location.

In Driver mode, you can enable Live Location, input the location of your home, and set up hands-free notifications and reminders when you are on the road. You can also set up speeding alerts to get notified when you pass the speed limit, which is especially helpful when you are unfamiliar with a location’s speed limits.

OtoZen: Best for Families

Using an app like OtoZen can help parents like me track the movement of loved ones. It allows me to monitor their whereabouts without being too intrusive and controlling.

You can give your teens the freedom they want while teaching responsibility with an app that automatically informs you where they are and their current situation. Parents don’t have to needlessly worry when their teens aren’t home yet. OtoZen tells me where they are, provides their ETA, and even shows me their speed.

Make Driver Safety Part of Your Family With OtoZen

Driver safety is a lesson every family needs to learn. Downloading OtoZen as a driver safety and assistance app can go a long way in protecting your teens on the road.

If you want to monitor your teens and ensure they’re driving safely, OtoZen is an excellent choice.

April 27, 2023 at 12:00 pm Leave a comment

Teaching Kids About Money

Guest article by Yulissa Asprilla, yasprilla@annuity.org

Teaching your kids about money is an important part of parenting. It is important to start early and give them a basic understanding of money and how it works. You can also help them to understand the importance of investing and the risks associated with it. Finally, you can help them to understand the importance of giving back to the community and how to make charitable donations, It can help them to become financially responsible adults.

Some parents may not feel confident enough in their own financial knowledge to be able to teach their kids about money. Others may think it is inappropriate to discuss money with young children, or mistakenly believe that children are too young to comprehend financial concepts. However, it is important to remember that teaching your children about money is essential to their development, and it is never too early to start.

When to start?

Depending on the age of your child, the conversation may vary. For younger children, you can start by introducing basic concepts such as the value of money, how to save, and how to make wise spending decisions. As your child gets older, you can introduce more complex topics such as budgeting, investing, and credit. It is important to have open and honest conversations with your child about money and to ensure that they understand the value of money and how to manage it responsibly.

How do I convince my kid that college is worth it?

When it comes to convincing your kid that college is worth it, it is important to emphasize the numerous benefits that come with a college education. Explain to your child that college provides them with the opportunity to gain valuable knowledge and skills that will help them succeed in their future career. Additionally, point out the potential for increased earning potential and job security that a college degree can provide. Finally, explain that college is a great way to make long-lasting connections and friendships that can last a lifetime.

Making a Budget

The first step is to help them create a budget that is realistic and achievable. This should include setting a goal for how much money they want to save each month and listing all of their monthly expenses. Once they have a budget in place, they should be encouraged to stick to it. This means avoiding impulse purchases and shopping around for the best deals. They should also be reminded to save any extra money they have left over at the end of the month. Finally, it is important to provide ongoing support and encouragement to help them stay on track. With these steps, they should be able to stick to their budget and reach their financial goals.

Lessons & Activities

We need to teach them that making mistakes in the comfort of their home, could greatly impact their future decisions by giving a sense of importance coming from the use of money. Researchers from the University of Minnesota suggest focusing “children’s education about money on the concepts of earning, spending, saving, borrowing, and sharing.” The University of Arizona doctoral student Ashley LeBaron said in her studies that “Practice Makes Perfect: Experimental learning as a Method of Financial Socialization.”

Software Applications for Teaching Kids About Money

Miata Edoga, president of the financial education company Abundance Bound, told Parentology, “We don’t want our kids to be afraid of spending, or be afraid of managing credit. We want them to feel confident in their ability to negotiate successful financial lives, to come at money from a place of power, rather than fear.”

The information age ushered in new media teaching platforms and introduced the world to the “digital native.” New educational apps for kids are launched regularly. These technological tools use interactivity and gamification to make financial concepts fun for children and teens, Additionally, by Educating kids about core personal finance topics, these apps simulate the digital-era experience of using credit and debit cards, mobile payment methods, and online banking.

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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Parent Coach, Author & Speaker

www.clynnwilliams.com

March 29, 2023 at 3:10 pm Leave a comment

Tell Yourself You Are Enough

Telling yourself you are enough is a good start to something better.

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What’s Your Story: Women’s History Month

While we celebrate March as a month for sharing women’s history, I think about my relationship with my mother, and all of the women who have passed through my life.

My love and respect for the women in my life was taught to me by my mother. I valued my relationship with her, even though we didn’t always agree.

As young girls, we are often led to believe that it’s mom’s way or the highway. I challenged that theory with my mom and I encourage other mothers and daughters to do the same, and allow each other the space to grow beyond their family, their culture and the world’s expectations of them. Let your daughter know that it’s okay to follow a path no one in your family dared to follow. 👣

I used to tell my daughter, she could be whomever she wanted and not to let anyone (including me) tell her she couldn’t do what she wanted with her life. That’s the legacy that I want for all girls.

Show the girls, teens and young women (that you interact with) how amazing they are now, and how far they can go with their lives. That’s what women’s history is all about.

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Parent Coach, Author & Speaker

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March 1, 2023 at 1:47 pm Leave a comment

Want to Improve Your Relationship with Your Mother (Daughter)?

Ones of the ways to improve a relationship is to apologize and listen…

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Teaching Responsibility versus Perfection

Perfection

This month I’ve focused on commitment and responsibility within our families, with ourselves as parents, and with our children.

I would not be MsParentguru, if I didn’t mention that many of us grew up with parents who taught us that success meant you did things exactly as you were told – perfectly.

That’s how I was raised.

Thinking back to my childhood, my siblings and I had chores. To deviate from my parent’s expectations was not good! There were consequences. 😩 For example, during the week, I was expected to heat up dinner, by the time my parents got home from work. My sister or brother would set the table.

Being the strong-willed child who stretched the limits of what my mom wanted me to do, I would not focus so much on having dinner ready, I would do something that I thought would make mom happy and proud of me.

Why? 🤷🏽‍♀️ Kids need the why…

Of course she reprimanded me because I did not do what she expected me to do, but what I felt as a child, was that I couldn’t please my mother.

How many times have you felt like that growing up? If you did exactly what your parents asked you to do they still weren’t pleased with the results? So we have children that suffer with self-esteem issues and I wonder if parents are requiring perfection as a need for control instead of teaching children the bigger picture?

The bigger picture is that there are many ways to complete tasks at home, at school or at work. When we get stuck with how something should be done, it causes issues in our relationship with our kids.

So how do we repair those relationships?

One way is to be really clear about what it is that we want our children to do when we assign tasks or chores – simply saying “clean up your room” could mean that there are no dirty clothes or plates of food underneath the bed or stuffed in the closet.

It might mean that your bed is made and whatever else you want them to do in their room. Once you have explained the task, have your child say back to you what it is that they heard you say so that both of you understand. I certainly remember saying “that’s not what I asked you to do”, and hearing – “Mom that’s what you said.”

Will this strategy work the first couple of times maybe so, maybe not. However, as you work on communicating in a way that they understand and cover it with a lot of love and grace, conversations, and the expectations will get better and better. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what it meant to be a perfect, parent and issues that you may have faced trying to control your child’s responses.

What was missing between my mom and I, was the explanation for why what I did was not good enough. These types of conversations help parents teach responsibility and life lessons to their children without squelching their self-esteem.

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C. Lynn Williams, Ms. Parentguru

January 27, 2023 at 5:30 pm 1 comment

Which One Are You Today?

It’s funny When your kids are small, you don’t ever want them to grow up. They are so innocent and precious and they listen to our every word. Then the day comes when they start saying things like “I’m grown, I can make my own decisions.” And you realize they are growing up and maybe you should let them make their decisions.

Then they say things like:

  • Can you pay for my phone?
  • Will you complete my FAFSA?
  • Do you have money for me to get my nails done?
  • Can you pay my car insurance?
  • Will you pay my rent?

Hold up! I thought you were grown? What happened to “I can do this.” or “Please stop telling me what to do!?

This is the brain of our teenage or 20-something kid. The problem is that they really don’t want your lessons learned talk, they want your money and support. No commitment!

While I published this blog in 2019, what I neglected to say was how important is it to teach commitment to our children when they are young and eager to learn (and please you). Teaching commitment means giving your children chores, which helps them understand how their chores helps the family operate more effectively. Commitment helps children take responsibility for what they did or didn’t do.

By the time your child is a teenager, they are less inclined to lose their minds when you say “We can’t do that this time.

When your kid says, “I can do it”, it’s important to let him or her do it.

Today’s parents don’t want their children to make the mistakes they made. It sounds good, but isn’t realistic. Growing up, I never liked being nagged and was very independent. Did I make mistakes? Absolutely, but most were never shared with my parents. I would have liked to talk out my decisions before they became mistakes, but didn’t feel my parents would have listened objectively and said, “What do you think you should do?”

Young people today don’t feel that way. They don’t want to be nagged or guilt tripped, but they want to be rescued when they’ve made a mistake. It’s doesn’t work both ways.

Some lessons can only be learned through experience. A daughter who has a child without the security of marriage, takes a risk that she will raise her child alone. (It can also happen if she marries.) A son who wants to play pro ball and decides not to go to college, takes a risk of having an injury and working the rest of his life as a laborer. Being afraid for our children and not letting them make mistakes prolongs the process of growing into a responsible adult.

It’s hard watching our children make mistakes especially ones that can follow them for life. It’s harder when they tell you to butt out and let them live their life. However, just like our parents let us go and grow… we have to do the same thing. A little lesson learning never hurt anybody!

Happy 2023!

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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

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January 11, 2023 at 5:21 pm Leave a comment

Wishing You A Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas at the tree
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Christmas is the time of celebration and merry making for everyone. This holiday is known for the melodious Christmas carols, rhythmical Christmas poems and intoxicating Christmas songs. An occasion of togetherness and merriment with your family is what Christmas is all about.

I wish you a very Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays! Below is a poem I am sharing with you from theparentsday website.

C. Lynn

Home is With Parents

Home is where parents and memories live,
Full of the love only families can give,
It’s a place where you learn
and a place where you play,
It’s a cozy retreat on a cold winter’s day

It’s warm and familiar and yet always new,
A place where there’s always a welcome for you,
Home is where laughter and happiness grow,
A place you’ll remember wherever you go.

Merry Christmas to both of you
With love,

(insert your child’s name)

http://www.theparentsday.com/poems/

December 22, 2022 at 9:50 am Leave a comment

Mothers Are Gifts (Sent From God)

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The Christmas season is right around the corner, and as usual, I have a million things to do. 🤯

However, one thing that I do every morning, is to take time to pray, meditate, and do my sit-ups. This time, gives me a chance to get in touch with how I feel about what’s going on in my life, in my business, and just to chill for a minute before the day begins.

Today, as I was reading my Daily Word, I thought about how many ways God has stepped into my life, and either suggested that I reach out to someone, talk to my kids about a concern that I have or let them know they were on my mind. I thought about like mothers, God is always watching us, and it blew me away!

God watching us is a good thing, and I’m glad that I have this spiritual support (God), because as you know, there are days that 1+1 does not equal two. And life doesn’t feel fair and people that you love pass away, or move away.

So, in my quiet moment, I think about how we are gifts to our children and our families. Let’s remember that, throughout our day today, when our child is calling, crying, or needing more than what we think we have to give.

I talk more about spiritual gifts and making family life easier for moms, in my 30 day program: How to Simplify Your Family Life Easier and Effectively.

How to Simplify Your Family Life helps women work on three areas: personal, family and relationships to eliminate burnout, mom guilt and exhaustion.

Once you complete the program, you’ll be able to:

  • Create a support system that helps you stay calm and hold onto your temper
  • Create and use morning and evening routines to keep our family organized and in order
  • Develop easy-to-use phrases and affirmations to respond to stressful comments and reduce mom guilt
  • Manage your daily schedule to include a daily activity of fun, rest or relaxation
  • Establish healthy life habits (food, exercise, sleep) that you have practiced during the 30 days individually or with an accountability partner

This online course begins January 9, and I’m offering the first 10 moms a Christmas gift of 50% off the retail price if you schedule time with me (and register for the course) by Dec 24th.

The Lord looks down from heaven, and sees the whole human race. On his throne, he observes all who live on the Earth. He made their hearts, so he understands everything they do. (Psalm 33:13-15)

Have a magnificent day! 🌞☀️

C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Parent Coach, Author & Speaker

http://clynnwilliams.com/

December 14, 2022 at 4:16 pm Leave a comment

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