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Rest Is Productive — A Christmas Reminder for Parents and Caregivers
Christmas often brings overwhelming demands on parents and caregivers, reinforcing the belief that love equals doing more. However, rest is essential for emotional well-being. This season, embrace the gift of slowing down and teaching children that their worth isn’t tied to productivity. Prioritize gentleness and self-care amidst holiday traditions.
Continue Reading December 24, 2025 at 2:01 pm Leave a comment
Raising Sons: 3 Essential Tips for Building Strong Bonds
Raising sons is a journey filled with challenges, triumphs, and lessons—not just for them but for you as a parent. From stomping around like dinosaurs to weathering teenage moods and learning about relationships, your influence helps shape who they become.
In my upcoming book, Fathers Raising Sons Through Dinosaurs, Testosterone & Girls, I explore the unique dynamics of father-son relationships. Here are three powerful tips to help you raise emotionally healthy, confident, and compassionate boys.
1. Teach Emotional Intelligence: Let Them Feel
Society often tells boys to “man up” or “stop crying,” which can cause them to suppress their emotions instead of processing them. This emotional suppression can lead to struggles with vulnerability and connection later in life.
Tip:
Encourage your son to talk about his feelings and assure him that it’s okay to feel sad, scared, or frustrated. Share your own — moments of joy, times you felt overwhelmed, or even mistakes you’ve made. When you model openness, your son learns that emotions are a strength, not a weakness.
Actionable Idea:
Create a “feelings check-in” routine. At the end of the day, ask your son to share one thing that made him happy, one thing that frustrated him, and one thing he’s grateful for.
2. Discipline with Compassion: Be the Guide, Not the Judge
As parents, it’s easy to fall into the trap of correcting every misstep. But discipline should be more about teaching than punishing. The goal is to help your son understand the “why” behind your rules, not just enforce compliance.
Tip:
- Set clear expectations and consequences, but always take the time to explain your reasoning.
- Balance discipline with encouragement – when your son succeeds, acknowledge his effort and growth.
Actionable Idea:
Instead of saying, “I told you to clean your room because I said so,” try explaining, “Keeping your space clean helps you stay organized and responsible—it’s a life skill you’ll thank yourself for later.”
3. Spend Quality Time: Presence Over Perfection
Boys thrive on connection, and nothing builds a stronger bond than spending intentional, distraction-free time together. Whether it’s tossing a ball in the backyard, building something together, or simply talking over a meal, your presence matters more than your words.
Tip:
- Make time for activities that your son loves—even if they stretch you outside your comfort zone.
- Create small traditions that give your son something to look forward to and cherish.
Actionable Idea:
Establish a weekly “Dad & Son Day” or “Parent-Son Day” where you dedicate time to an activity of his choice. It could be as simple as going for ice cream or as adventurous as a hike.
Final Thoughts
These are just a few of the lessons I unpack more deeply in Fathers Raising Sons Through Dinosaurs, Testosterone & Girls. If you’d like early access, bonus tips, and updates when pre-orders open, join my insider list click here. Together, we can raise the next generation of strong, kind, and emotionally healthy men.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentGuru
Parent Coach & Author
Helping parents care for themselves while raising strong, confident kids.
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The Heartbreak of Suicide: Why Moms Need Support Too
The author reflects on a tragic incident involving a mother who drowned her children and herself, emphasizing the importance of heeding cries for help. Amid rising suicide rates, especially among vulnerable groups, the post urges compassion toward those struggling. It highlights the need for support, self-care, and encouragement, particularly for mothers.
Continue Reading September 24, 2025 at 8:24 pm Leave a comment
Thanksgiving: A Season for Connection and Gratitude
This Thanksgiving, let’s honor parents for their unwavering love and resilience. Amidst holiday pressures, focus on genuine connections and embrace imperfections. Treasure shared laughter and moments that forge family bonds. As a parent coach, remember to express gratitude for both what you receive and what you give. Celebrate your family as they are.
Continue Reading November 26, 2024 at 3:59 pm Leave a comment
Stop Missing Out on Vital Father-Son Time
The significance of father-son relationships is underscored by personal experiences of missed connections. Strong emotional bonds foster stability and personal growth in sons while allowing fathers to model positive behaviors. By being present, showing vulnerability, and encouraging independence, fathers can build lasting connections that influence future generations positively.
Continue Reading October 22, 2024 at 5:30 pm Leave a comment
My Spouse and I Parent Very Differently
How is it possible that the person you fell in love with; who understands you perfectly and finishes your sentences… parents so differently from you?
Not only do they parent differently, it’s inconsistent, they show favorites with your kids and it’s ALL WRONG 😑
Well, I wonder if they feel the same way about you?
The funny thing about parenting, is this: how can someone else tell you how to raise your child? Yet, that’s exactly what has to happen when you coparent whether you are in the same household or in separate households.
Ideally you discuss things that are important to you to instill in your children before they are born. If it’s important that your son or daughter to speak candidly, then your spouse can’t be annoyed when your out-spoken child speaks at a family gathering (and the comment embarrasses you).
Parenting isn’t one of those “scripted” professions. You start out with the best intentions of raising your child together, until you hit a non-negotiable topic.
Here are 3 things to consider to help you resolve those sticky parenting issues:
- Take a moment to calm down (if you’re angry)
- Think about whether you can accept what your spouse is saying (lose the ego)
- Communicate your concerns with your spouse (outside of your child’s hearing)
Trying to talk while angry, is insanity. Once you calm down, you may feel differently and be willing to compromise. Marriage and raising children require compromise and patience from both of you. Acceptance of your spouse’s parenting style is important to your relationship, and the relationship of your spouse and child.
If you or your spouse are the bonus parent, and are new to the parent-child relationship, either one of you may have a difficult time, “allowing” the other parent to share in important decisions, behavior management and life issues. It’s a normal human emotion to be protective of your child. However, the blending takes place when you share your concerns and decide how to handle.
That was the challenge my husband and I faced when we married and blended our children of previous relationships together. It wasn’t easy when we started. It took a lot of conversations and a few arguments (when the kids were not around). It also took prayer and patience. Our children are adults now, and we are celebrating 20 years of marriage later this year.
You can do this!
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
The Voices Heard Before Suicide
Suicide is a profound tragedy…
My daughter was a young girl when my brother committed suicide. I was devastated. He had been suffering with a chronic illness and told us he was praying to die, while we prayed for him to live.
He had talked about dying years before that because he was so unhappy. Suicide is seldom unplanned, and victims leave clues.
It is up to us to pay attention to those clues and intervene. That’s easy to say, and harder to do. There are lots of external influences that will make it challenging to notice the clues.
These days children are dealing with life issues that they don’t want to talk about. Bullying. Sexual abuse. Peer pressure. Parental expectations. Excelling in school. These issues are further exacerbated by the separatism that technology provides. Many of these issues young people face without appropriate coping skills. When an unpleasant event occurs they feel that life can’t go on and so they attempt suicide or they are successful. 🤯
I recently heard the story of a good kid who received detention at school and then was reprimanded by his s parents at home. Concerned that he had jeopardized his chances to get into a Ivy League school for college; he committed suicide. Did he leave any clues that he was fragile?
What about the girl who can no longer face school or online bullies and decides that suicide is a better alternative to living. What behaviors did her parents notice before she took her life?
How do we stop this madness?
Suicide is beyond devastating! It’s really bad when it happens to a child that you think is safe; has a good life; and looks normal.
Are there warning signs? They’re probably aren’t many if any unless you are watching intently and you are in tune with your child; even then there’s no guarantee that you will be aware of what’s going on.
Here is what I can tell you:
- Watch for changes of behavior
- Mood swings
- Quiet and withdrawn in an otherwise outgoing joyous kid.
There’s no guarantee that you’ll catch the clues then, but it least if you start a conversation beyond ‘how was your day’; if you talk about how to build resilience; if you let your child know that there is nothing worth taking their life over…
Have those hard conversations now when everything is good. Let your child know that correcting their behavior is your job, but that you are always proud of them and love them. reprinted from November 23, 2019
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
We Can Save Our Boys
It’s hard to advocate for equality and fairness from others, when our sons kill each other. Beefs, challenges, gang wars, whatever… it takes superhuman strength to change the heart and action of young men once the streets have become their parents.
Offer them love, support, structure and discipline while they are young. Continue it through their adolescent and teen years. Teach them to be good people, so they will grow up and be great adults
Be willing to move them out of dangerous communities and away from dangerous people. When I was growing up, an unruly young man was sent to the Army or military school.
If you are a single mom and your son’s dad is not in his life, find a good role model that will provide male support and discipline. Let’s start repeating affirmations of peace, freedom and love over ourselves and our sons. Instead of sending your son out to play, go outside and play with him. I coach parents, and one of my parents said her son has no one to play with outside, because the other kids are afraid of getting shot. That’s a sad commentary on some of our communities now. We can do better.
Our current circumstances do not define who we are, or who our sons are.
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C. Lynn Williams @MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
What Do You LOVE About Dad
What do you love most about your father?
- His ability to make you laugh?
- His strength?
- His ability to make you feel safe?
- His wise advice?
- How he takes care of you?
Whether your dad is with you. you never knew him, or is now a memory as mine is, let’s celebrate Dads this weekend and thank God for them! Enjoy (and share) my Father’s Day prayer.
Prayer for Fathers
“Dear God, We thank you for the gift of Dads in this life. We thank you that you are the greatest Dad ever, Abba Father, and we know that you cover us in your great love.
We pray specifically for fathers and fatherhood across our land. Your Word clearly instructs fathers to bring up their children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
We pray for the single fathers out there; whether they are raising their children alone or even if they are doing the best they can with the time they have. We pray for strength, protection, wisdom, and discernment to help them through whatever trials they may be facing.
We pray for the dads out there who are being alienated from their children right now. We pray, that You would shield and shelter them from the pain and possibly the anger that may be rising up in them, for You to strike down the barriers that are hindering these dads from seeing their children.
Lord, we lift up the dads right now that are not stepping up to the plate as fathers, for whatever reason. we pray for their children and the moms who are parenting alone because of these men’s decisions. We pray You would step in as a father to the fatherless and a defender of widows in these situations, that their story would be another testimony that nothing is too hard for You.”
AMEN
Happy Fathers’ Day!
Interested in improving your family’s dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs and workshops for Aging Parents, Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and their Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and their Sons.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Kids Do the Darnedest Things
I have the cutest great nephew, and one day he said s*~t. He was two years old and we couldn’t understand where he heard a word like that and could repeat it so clearly. Periodically, swear words are sprinkled throughout his conversations especially when he gets frustrated. It doesn’t really matter where he picked up his irreverent language, just know that he was imitating someone close to him (that he respected).
Young children are like sponges and they pick up our words, phrases and mannerisms so easily. They watch us to determine how they should act, and then they surprise us with an exact replica of ourselves. That’s one of the things they do quite well without any prompting from us.
I said young children didn’t I? Actually it doesn’t matter how old our child is, they imitate our behaviors whether positive or negative.
Both my parents smoked like sailors as I was growing up. The first semester that I was home from college, I lit up a cigarette in front of my mother. She was horrified and asked “Why are you smoking?” I told her that since she did it, I’d decided to smoke too. Then we had a conversation about her addiction to cigarettes. She begged me to stop and that was the first (and last) cigarette I smoked.
Here are five thoughts to remember as your kids continue to grow:
- Watch your language
- Manage your temper (no popping off)
- Model kindness
- Be open (for them to talk)
- LISTEN
Enjoy your family and have a Happy Thanksgiving.
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