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When Mothers Struggle to Like Their Daughters: What’s Really Going On?
The content discusses the struggles faced by college-aged women resulting from emotionally distant relationships with their mothers. Unresolved childhood trauma, self-reflection, and cultural pressures contribute to these dynamics. Despite these challenges, communication and self-reflection can foster healing and deeper connections, offering hope for better mother-daughter relationships.
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How Moms Can Reclaim Balance, Purpose, and Joy!
Being a mom is one of the most rewarding roles in the world, but it often comes with significant challenges. Between managing household responsibilities, juggling work, and raising children, moms often find themselves stretched thin and overwhelmed.
Time management becomes a daily struggle as they try to balance their endless to-do lists while still making time for themselves. Self-care, unfortunately, takes a back seat, leaving moms feeling exhausted and depleted. The constant push and pull between being fully present for their families while pursuing their own passions or careers can lead to feelings of guilt and frustration. Finding purpose and fulfillment outside of motherhood becomes an elusive goal when life feels like an endless cycle of tasks.
This struggle isn’t just about not having enough hours in the day; it’s also about feeling disconnected from your own identity. Many moms feel like they’ve lost a sense of who they are beyond being caregivers. With so much focus on taking care of everyone else, it’s easy for their goals, dreams, and aspirations to get lost in the shuffle. The lack of balance and time for self-reflection can lead to burnout and a sense of being stuck. The search for a better work-life balance, clear priorities, and a renewed sense of purpose is what so many moms yearn for but struggle to achieve on their own.
That’s where my coaching program comes in. My 30-day program is designed to help moms reclaim control of their time, rediscover their passions, and create a life that aligns with both their family and personal goals. Through personalized strategies, goal-setting exercises, and mindset coaching, I guide moms on how to effectively manage their time, prioritize self-care, and cultivate a balanced, purpose-driven life. The program isn’t just about giving advice; it’s about working together to create actionable plans that work for your unique situation. With my support, you’ll find the clarity, confidence, and tools needed to thrive as both a mom and an individual. If you’re ready to take back control and start living intentionally, this program is your solution.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru#
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
10 Resources to Guide You Through Every Stage of Your Child’s Life
Gwen Payne, guest blogger
Parenting takes you on a long and winding journey, and some days will leave you with more questions than answers. By working with a parenting guru like C. Lynn Williams, you can get personalized advice on developing a healthy parenting style. Plus, these resources cover numerous parenting topics that are relevant to every stage of your child’s life, from babyproofing your property to keeping your family physically active.
Avoiding a Surprise Pregnancy
Preventing a surprise pregnancy requires proactive measures and informed decisions. Here are essential strategies to help you effectively avoid unexpected pregnancies and maintain control over your reproductive health.
- Utilize reliable birth control methods, such as condoms, hormonal pills, patches, or intrauterine devices (IUDs), to prevent unplanned pregnancies.
- Have open and honest discussions with your partner about family planning and contraception choices to ensure you are both on the same page.
- Stay informed about reproductive health and the effectiveness of different birth control methods, and consult with a healthcare professional to find the most suitable option.
- Be aware of emergency contraception options, such as the morning-after pill, to use in case of contraceptive failure or unprotected intercourse.
- Consider using a combination of birth control methods, such as condoms along with another contraceptive, to further reduce the risk of unexpected pregnancies.
Adjusting to Life With a Newborn
Each day with a newborn will bring something new and unexpected – but these tips will help you deal with all of these changes.
- With time, you’ll be able to establish a routine that suits you and your baby.
- By turning to your support system for help, you can create time for self-care.
- Before your baby arrives, block off time to baby-proof your home and choose safe items for your household.
Helping Your Toddler Navigate the World
Your toddler is learning to process big emotions and discover who they are. You can better support them by referencing these resources.
- Your child is old enough to start practicing basic manners for social situations.
- Encourage your child when it comes to making friends!
- Work with your child on mastering simple life skills, like cleaning up, getting dressed, and doing household chores.
Guiding Your Child in Elementary School
Once your child has entered elementary school, it’s your job to help them become who they truly are.
- If your child is struggling with their grades, you can assist them in improving their academic performance.
- Help your child pick one or two extracurricular activities they might like.
- Consider relocating to a walkable neighborhood to promote lifelong fitness.
- Connecting with a parenting coach can help you find work-life balance.
If you’re a new parent, you know that you’re starting an unpredictable new chapter of your life. But by turning to trusted sources for advice, you can feel confident in your parenting decisions. With these tips, you’ll be prepared to choose safe products for your family, make sure that your kids get plenty of exercise, and more!
Are you looking for parenting guidance? Turn to C. Lynn Williams! Schedule a free virtual chat through our website today to talk about all things parenting.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Mothers Are Gifts (Sent From God)
The Christmas season is right around the corner, and as usual, I have a million things to do. 🤯
However, one thing that I do every morning, is to take time to pray, meditate, and do my sit-ups. This time, gives me a chance to get in touch with how I feel about what’s going on in my life, in my business, and just to chill for a minute before the day begins.
Today, as I was reading my Daily Word, I thought about how many ways God has stepped into my life, and either suggested that I reach out to someone, talk to my kids about a concern that I have or let them know they were on my mind. I thought about like mothers, God is always watching us, and it blew me away!
God watching us is a good thing, and I’m glad that I have this spiritual support (God), because as you know, there are days that 1+1 does not equal two. And life doesn’t feel fair and people that you love pass away, or move away.
So, in my quiet moment, I think about how we are gifts to our children and our families. Let’s remember that, throughout our day today, when our child is calling, crying, or needing more than what we think we have to give.
I talk more about spiritual gifts and making family life easier for moms, in my 30 day program: How to Simplify Your Family Life Easier and Effectively.
How to Simplify Your Family Life helps women work on three areas: personal, family and relationships to eliminate burnout, mom guilt and exhaustion.
Once you complete the program, you’ll be able to:
- Create a support system that helps you stay calm and hold onto your temper
- Create and use morning and evening routines to keep our family organized and in order
- Develop easy-to-use phrases and affirmations to respond to stressful comments and reduce mom guilt
- Manage your daily schedule to include a daily activity of fun, rest or relaxation
- Establish healthy life habits (food, exercise, sleep) that you have practiced during the 30 days individually or with an accountability partner
This online course begins January 9, and I’m offering the first 10 moms a Christmas gift of 50% off the retail price if you schedule time with me (and register for the course) by Dec 24th.
The Lord looks down from heaven, and sees the whole human race. On his throne, he observes all who live on the Earth. He made their hearts, so he understands everything they do. (Psalm 33:13-15)
Have a magnificent day! 🌞☀️
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
My Spouse and I Parent Very Differently
How is it possible that the person you fell in love with; who understands you perfectly and finishes your sentences… parents so differently from you?
Not only do they parent differently, it’s inconsistent, they show favorites with your kids and it’s ALL WRONG 😑
Well, I wonder if they feel the same way about you?
The funny thing about parenting, is this: how can someone else tell you how to raise your child? Yet, that’s exactly what has to happen when you coparent whether you are in the same household or in separate households.
Ideally you discuss things that are important to you to instill in your children before they are born. If it’s important that your son or daughter to speak candidly, then your spouse can’t be annoyed when your out-spoken child speaks at a family gathering (and the comment embarrasses you).
Parenting isn’t one of those “scripted” professions. You start out with the best intentions of raising your child together, until you hit a non-negotiable topic.
Here are 3 things to consider to help you resolve those sticky parenting issues:
- Take a moment to calm down (if you’re angry)
- Think about whether you can accept what your spouse is saying (lose the ego)
- Communicate your concerns with your spouse (outside of your child’s hearing)
Trying to talk while angry, is insanity. Once you calm down, you may feel differently and be willing to compromise. Marriage and raising children require compromise and patience from both of you. Acceptance of your spouse’s parenting style is important to your relationship, and the relationship of your spouse and child.
If you or your spouse are the bonus parent, and are new to the parent-child relationship, either one of you may have a difficult time, “allowing” the other parent to share in important decisions, behavior management and life issues. It’s a normal human emotion to be protective of your child. However, the blending takes place when you share your concerns and decide how to handle.
That was the challenge my husband and I faced when we married and blended our children of previous relationships together. It wasn’t easy when we started. It took a lot of conversations and a few arguments (when the kids were not around). It also took prayer and patience. Our children are adults now, and we are celebrating 20 years of marriage later this year.
You can do this!
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Raising Our Daughters to be Fearless
As we celebrate Women’s History Month, I think back to when I found out our firstborn child would be a girl. Coming from a long line of strong women, I was excited to be a girlmom. 😆
I believe in women being bold, sassy and speaking their truths. What better way to raise a daughter who would live life from her internal perspective instead of how the world thinks she should live.
What’s crazy is that nobody expects girls to speak with confidence, especially girls of color. 🙄 As mothers, we have to encourage that confidence daily, so that our daughters are comfortable speaking up and out whether with their girlfriends, boyfriends, in the classroom or in their work environments. Living life on your own terms is important today where there are many opportunities to succeed, even when people tell you, you can’t.
Patience is key in this relationship with our daughter(s). As you help her build her “voice”, she will use it to argue and sometimes compete with you.🗣 Don’t be offended, just know that as her staunchest supporter – her mom, you are someone she trusts and loves.
Be her fence, love her unconditionally, but give her room to grow. She may make decisions that you don’t respect as she grows and matures. It’s okay. It has to be okay – it’s her life. Be there as her guide and coach.
Enjoy the journey with her, as she becomes the woman you always wanted and expected her to become. 🌸💕🌺
C. Lynn Williams, aka MsParentguru
The Secret Lives of Teens on Social Media: Here’s What You Need to Know
Social media has become an integral part of our everyday lives. Parents use it, just like their children. However, on average, teenagers are the ones who spend the most time on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, TikTok and similar platforms.
This leaves many parents worried. Some are afraid that this habit will grow into an addiction, while others are concerned about cyberbullying, over-sharing, and an “all-about-attention” attitude.
Author Donna Lynn Hope asks an important question: “How different would people act if they couldn’t show off on social media? Would they still do it?”
If our children were to be born in more innocent times, without social media, would they be any different?
Consider these questions:
- How do we know what our children are doing online?
- Is there a way to control our child’s behavior on social media, without invading their privacy and breaking their trust?
- How do we recognize if social media is negatively affecting our children?
This topic is complicated, and there are no simple answers. However, if you ask your child about the time they spend on social media, you might be surprised at how willing they are to talk about it.
When you speak with them about their emotions and challenges, and address potential issues in self-esteem, you may find that social media won’t pose such a threat to them.
Even so, you may still be wondering how you can safely explore your child’s secret life on social media.
These solutions will help:
- Dignify their devices. If you want to limit your child’s social media usage, avoid taking away their device. They will find another one. Help them find effective ways to self-regulate, instead.
- Fear of missing out often motivates the time spent on social media.
- However, teens are aware of the consequences this habit creates. Encourage them to reflect on these consequences and focus on the impact social media overload has on their personal, academic, and other goals.
- Fear of missing out often motivates the time spent on social media.
- Ask about the apps. Ask your child which apps they spend the most time on. Is it Instagram, Facebook, or perhaps Snapchat? Once you find out, install those apps on your phone, too, and figure out how they work.
- Some apps have geolocation which can pose a real danger. Try to manage your child’s social media activity by informing them of the danger rather than imposing your opinion.
- Don’t be a manager, be a mentor.
- Some apps have geolocation which can pose a real danger. Try to manage your child’s social media activity by informing them of the danger rather than imposing your opinion.
- Help them to protect their privacy. Talk about privacy settings on different social media accounts. Some teens are not aware of this option.
- Agree with them to accept only the followers and friends that they know personally. This is not an easy task for a teen because the number of followers is often the barometer of popularity.
- However, if they understand the necessity for well-managed online presence, this shouldn’t be a problem.
- Agree with them to accept only the followers and friends that they know personally. This is not an easy task for a teen because the number of followers is often the barometer of popularity.
- Talk about sexting. Parents find the infamous conversation about “The Birds and the Bees” just as awkward as children do. However, now you have another level to deal with – sexting.
- Teens can often confuse sending explicit messages and photos for intimacy that might not exist.
- Talk about what it means to have a healthy relationship and how to develop and maintain one.
- Teens can often confuse sending explicit messages and photos for intimacy that might not exist.
- Overcome social media prejudice. Many parents believe that social media is completely, or almost completely, bad. However, it is neither good nor bad per se. It’s a new form of communication.
- When parents talk to their children about social media from this standpoint, the child is likely to withhold and hide information.
- Genuine curiosity and an open mind about your child’s interest in social media can make a significant difference.
- When parents talk to their children about social media from this standpoint, the child is likely to withhold and hide information.
- Care about their emotions. Teenagers want their opinions to be heard. This especially goes for the things they’re passionate or angry about. Social media offers instant feedback to their posts, which makes kids feel listened to, validated, and acknowledged.
- However, if you offer empathy for challenges your child is facing, you can provide listening and validation inside of your family, too. This will give you an insight into what your teen posts on social media and an opportunity to help them self-filter.
When your child asks you for the first time if they can open a social media account, avoid judging them or jumping to conclusions. Accept their need to engage in such community-based way of communication, talk about it, and help them build a safe profile.
Teach them how to protect themselves and what to expect.
You’ll never have all the information about their activity, but if you’re interested and understanding, you might get just the right amount.
I help parents build the kind of communication and trust that allows parent-child relationships to grow and feel better through coaching and parent classes. Email me for more information: info@clynnwilliams.com 😘
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
The Voices Heard Before Suicide
Suicide is a profound tragedy…
My daughter was a young girl when my brother committed suicide. I was devastated. He had been suffering with a chronic illness and told us he was praying to die, while we prayed for him to live.
He had talked about dying years before that because he was so unhappy. Suicide is seldom unplanned, and victims leave clues.
It is up to us to pay attention to those clues and intervene. That’s easy to say, and harder to do. There are lots of external influences that will make it challenging to notice the clues.
These days children are dealing with life issues that they don’t want to talk about. Bullying. Sexual abuse. Peer pressure. Parental expectations. Excelling in school. These issues are further exacerbated by the separatism that technology provides. Many of these issues young people face without appropriate coping skills. When an unpleasant event occurs they feel that life can’t go on and so they attempt suicide or they are successful. 🤯
I recently heard the story of a good kid who received detention at school and then was reprimanded by his s parents at home. Concerned that he had jeopardized his chances to get into a Ivy League school for college; he committed suicide. Did he leave any clues that he was fragile?
What about the girl who can no longer face school or online bullies and decides that suicide is a better alternative to living. What behaviors did her parents notice before she took her life?
How do we stop this madness?
Suicide is beyond devastating! It’s really bad when it happens to a child that you think is safe; has a good life; and looks normal.
Are there warning signs? They’re probably aren’t many if any unless you are watching intently and you are in tune with your child; even then there’s no guarantee that you will be aware of what’s going on.
Here is what I can tell you:
- Watch for changes of behavior
- Mood swings
- Quiet and withdrawn in an otherwise outgoing joyous kid.
There’s no guarantee that you’ll catch the clues then, but it least if you start a conversation beyond ‘how was your day’; if you talk about how to build resilience; if you let your child know that there is nothing worth taking their life over…
Have those hard conversations now when everything is good. Let your child know that correcting their behavior is your job, but that you are always proud of them and love them. reprinted from November 23, 2019
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Six Tips for Being Better Parents
Avoid harsh discipline
Explain your role and decisions
Be involved in your child’s life
Guide your child through their mistakes and weaknesses
Live in the now
Be a parent, not pal
Happy birthday to my amazing first-born, **Candace**, who started me on this journey of parenting and being better. The first child is lucky because s/he pulls love and emotions out of you that you never knew existed. They are also your “experiment” child. You try techniques, other people’s thoughts and that firstborn is like a stew of everyone’s ideas of how you should raise your child.
Just remember that this is your child!
Follow your gut!
Have fun!
Make wonderful memories together!
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Being Friends With Our Kids
I remember one of my mother’s favorite phrases when I was growing up – “I am not here to be friends with you.”
I never wanted to be friends with her, I just wanted her to stop being so mean…
And then I had my own children…
What I found, was as my children became tweens and teens, I wanted to be friends with them. I wanted to laugh and enjoy them because they were growing into people that I loved and respected.
What I found out that was, being friends with my kids compromised me being their boundary setter, the consequence handler, the Mom that they could count on when they needed somebody to talk with them honestly; when they need the adult-in-charge to take over!
I found it difficult to be both friend and adult parent. So I too repeated my mom’s words: “I’m not here to be your friend, but you can count on me anytime and all the time.”
What I learned from my kids, is that when I gave them boundaries they felt safe, and I often heard them repeating the house rules to their friends. I liked that! Being the adult in charge is important because your kids don’t have to worry about who you are today. They know you are the person they can rely on when life is crashing and burning around them. 🔥 They won’t have to worry if you allow them to drink or smoke illegal substances (because you’re their friend) one day and other days it’s not tolerated. The lines are not blurred.
The friendship between the two of you will definitely come, probably when you’re both adults and they are making their own decisions. By then, sharing an alcoholic beverage is both legal and tolerated.
I help parents build the kind of communication and trust that allows relationships to grow and feel better. Call me to schedule a complimentary chat session or to book a seat in my coaching program.😘
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Staying Sane While Raising Your Teens 
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