BLACK FRIDAY Deals from C. Lynn Williams
Start your Holiday Shopping Early. Black Friday normally starts the day after Thanksgiving, but since you are already here…Deals Are Here…
Get your holiday shopping done early by getting several parenting books to give as gifts for the parents in your life:
Your Son’s Role Model?
I keep trying to understand the male culture of taking one’s enemies out. As a woman, it is not an easily understood phenomenon. In my neighborhood, African American men and boys resolve their differences by shooting each other. Lots of males are dying these days. This kind of ethnic cleansing happens in Hispanic neighborhoods as well. Males in mainstream America also shoot, often harming or killing everyone in the general vicinity.
Very little discussion takes place because our society doesn’t seem to remember a time when we resolved our differences by talking things out. Tolerance is not a skill that seems to be taught or valued anymore. In the political arena, instead of working together, candidates annihilate each other with lies and insinuations, basically killing the accused candidate’s chances of winning anything. In corporate America, money and power rule to such an extent, that discussion and the possibility of working things out, very seldom occurs, unless a watchdog agency intervenes.
How do we teach our sons a better way to grow up in a society that does not value love, respect, honor and truth? What happened to the dads of yesteryear? My dad is one of those “yesteryear” dads. He was Dr. Huxtable from The Cosby Show, Steve Douglas on My Three Sons (dating myself here), or the Mr. Eddie’s father on the Courtship of Eddie’s Father. I am talking about a dad that spends time with his family and talks to and with his son(s). How else can boys grow into men without that kind of guidance?
I wonder if the Colorado shooter had had positive, quality time with his father during his formative years, if he would have been inclined to randomly shoot and kill people in a movie theatre. Don’t get me wrong, women own a piece of this parenting debacle too. Our boys can’t grow up like wild, uncontrollable plants without our assistance or good parenting. However, in the end they (our sons) are looking for a male role model; any old role model will do. If the only available role model is a drug dealer, that is who our sons will follow. If the role model is a caring, tolerant, man of faith – that’s who are son will follow instead.
Who is your son’s role model?
C. Lynn
When to Cut Finances to Your Adult Child
When do you stop helping your children (even those over age 21) financially? I remember paying my daughters’ phone bills until they were about 25 years old. We wanted to make sure they were able to handle their household bills, and we were able to help them, so we did.
What’s interesting is that I met a woman whose husband still relied on his mother to pay his rent. This man was 50 years old. That’s pretty riduculous right? Here is a link to an article that advises us on when to close our checkbooks:
http://www.bankrate.com/finance/personal-finance/cut-financial-cord-on-kids-1.aspx?ec_id=cmct_02_comm_PF_mainlink
Let me know what you think..
MsParentguru
My Pampered Prince Turns 22
What age determines ADULTHOOD?Over the weekend, my son turned 22 years old, and I had mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, I realized, I no longer have to caretake him, he’s a man now. Exciting!! However, we’ve had a year of ups and downs while he determines where he wants to go in life. He’s drifting right now, and it’s hard to understand a kid who drifts.
He recently shared that he was still stuck about the divorce of his father and I, and attributed that to his bouts of depression and inactivity. I don’t know about you, but as a mother, I felt responsible for why he was stuck. Crazy!!
Even with our difference in gender, I remember wanting to be my own person in my early twenties, and only communicating with my mother when necessary. I shouldn’t be surprised when I get the same treatment from him. And yet, if he were successfully completing college or had a promising job, I wouldn’t be so concerned for him. For me the hardest part of parenting is patiently waiting for him to be more than he’s settling for. Oh well, I’ll wait.. Ugh, I hate waiting..
Peace,
C Lynn
Book Review: Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen by C. Lynn Williams http://askdavid.com/reviews/book/parenting/1864
Parenting teens includes many challenges as well as joys. A focus should be on the positive side of parenting teens. This focus will help the parent to feel more competent and actually be able to enjoy their teen and the ups and downs they face. Sometimes parents tend to over emphasize the negatives and annoyances of parenting their teens. This book will help you get along with your children as you guide them in the godly path for living.
Mother – Daughter Reflections for my Newest Book!
Consider being part of a group of women that talks about your relationship with your mom or your daughter? I’m writing the last chapter in my new mother/daughter book and would love to include your anecdote or favorite memory. I only need a paragraph. You can message it to me on my CGWW Books fan page https://www.facebook.com/?ref=tn_tnmn#!/CGWWBooks or email it to me at: cgwwbooks@yahoo.com
If you prefer, send your thoughts to me via my blog. I will only be able to take the first 50 comments, so don’t delay. Send me your comments right away!
Happy Friday, C. Lynn
Colorado Shooter – Where is Your Mother?
Ever wonder what is causing people to resort to so much violence in our world today? I was hardly on my online readings before I saw numerous articles regarding the shooting in Aurora Colorado. My heart goes out to the families of the victims who were killed, as well as the audience who had to witness the insanity that occurred.
I kept wondering what kind of home training the shooter had (or didn’t have), and what was his relationship with his parents, particularly his mom? Feel free to share your thoughts or Tweet me @cgwwbook
For those of you who did not read/hear about this tragedy, here’s a link: http://www.cnn.com/2012/07/20/us/colorado-theater-shooting/index.html?hpt=hp_t1
Warm regards,
MsParentguru
Healthy Eating Is NOT More Expensive..
Yes I admit, I believe there is a link between bright, alert kids and healthy eating habits. Healthy kids are usually much more alert than kids who have potato chips and soda for breakfast or lunch. However, we have always been told that it is more expensive to eat healthy foods instead of junk foods. The U.S. Department of Agriculture has confirmed it.
“A study, recently released by the U.S. Department of Agriculture’s (USDA) Economic Research Service, found that healthy foods like beans, carrots, milk, and yogurt are actually less expensive than ice cream sandwiches, cinnamon buns, and soda.”
Here’s the link to read more: http://candostreet.com/blog-parents/2012/06/healthy-food-is-not-more-expensive-than-junk-food/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+candostreet%2Fparents-teachers+%28Can+Do+Street+Blog+-+For+Parents+%26+Teachers%29
C. Lynn Williams
MsParentguru
www.clynnwilliams.com/site
Homeless Teen Beats the Odds
For all of the news about non-achieving teens, here’s an uplifting teen’s story I heard about today that I would like to share with you:
http://xfinity.comcast.net/video/from-homeless-high-school-senior-to-the-halls-of-harvard/2244051947
Write your thoughts.
C. Lynn Williams
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