Posts tagged ‘girls’
The Bond That Shapes Us: A Heartfelt Look at Mother-Daughter Relationships
The relationship between mothers and daughters is complex, embodying both comfort and heartache. It shapes emotional resilience and nurturing. Healing strained connections requires understanding, grace, and vulnerability. It’s never too late to rebuild trust and reconnect with love. Supportive resources and coaching are available for those seeking harmony in these relationships.
Building a Healthy Relationship Between Moms and Daughters: Tips for Strengthening Your Bond
As a mom, creating and maintaining a strong, healthy relationship with your daughter is a journey filled with ups and downs, growth, and learning. A positive relationship is essential for both your emotional well-being and hers, offering her the security and guidance she needs to navigate the world. Here are some tips to help you foster a deeper connection with your daughter:
1. Open Communication is Key
A healthy relationship starts with open, honest communication. Make it a point to listen actively to your daughter’s thoughts and feelings, without judgment or interruption. Whether it’s about school, friendships, or emotions, let her know that she can always come to you with anything on her mind. This creates trust and an emotional safety net.
2. Respect Her Independence
As your daughter grows, she will start seeking more independence. While this might feel like a challenge, it’s an important part of her development. Encourage her to make her own choices and respect her boundaries. This helps her build confidence in her decisions while strengthening her sense of self.
3. Quality Time Together
It’s not always about how much time you spend together, but how meaningful it is. Whether it’s a weekly mother-daughter date, cooking together, or simply having a conversation before bed, make sure to cherish and prioritize moments where you can connect without distractions.
4. Be a Role Model
Your actions speak louder than words. Show your daughter what healthy relationships, both with yourself and others, look like. Model kindness, patience, and the importance of self-care. How you treat yourself and others will have a lasting impact on how she forms relationships in the future.
5. Encourage Emotional Expression
Encourage your daughter to express her feelings freely. Whether she’s happy, sad, frustrated, or excited, acknowledging and validating her emotions teaches her that it’s okay to feel and express them. Show her that emotions are not something to hide, but something to understand and manage in healthy ways.
6. Respect Each Other’s Space
While it’s important to be close, it’s also essential to respect each other’s need for space. Sometimes, your daughter may need time alone to recharge or reflect, and so might you. Understanding and respecting this space is essential for maintaining a healthy dynamic that doesn’t feel suffocating.
7. Practice Patience and Compassion
The road to building a healthy relationship can be bumpy. There will be times of miscommunication, frustration, and even conflict. But when these moments arise, practice patience and compassion. Acknowledge when you’ve made a mistake and be open to working through challenges together.
8. Celebrate Her Uniqueness
Every daughter is unique, and it’s important to celebrate her individuality. Encourage her interests, whether they’re the same as yours or completely different. Show interest in her passions and be her biggest cheerleader. This will help her feel valued for who she is, rather than who she’s expected to be.
Conclusion
During this Women’s History Month, build the story you’ll want told in your family for generations. A healthy relationship with your daughter requires ongoing effort, but the rewards are immeasurable. By focusing on open communication, respecting each other’s boundaries, and offering unconditional support, you’ll foster a bond that lasts a lifetime. Remember, you are both on this journey together, learning and growing every step of the way.
If you’re ready to create a stronger connection with your daughter, Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears and HORMONES! provides the guidance and tools you need to navigate this beautiful journey. Start building the legacy of love and understanding today by grabbing your copy of Raising Your Daughter and take the next step in building the relationship you both deserve!
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
What’s Your Story: Women’s History Month
While we celebrate March as a month for sharing women’s history, I think about my relationship with my mother, and all of the women who have passed through my life.
My love and respect for the women in my life was taught to me by my mother. I valued my relationship with her, even though we didn’t always agree.
As young girls, we are often led to believe that it’s mom’s way or the highway. I challenged that theory with my mom and I encourage other mothers and daughters to do the same, and allow each other the space to grow beyond their family, their culture and the world’s expectations of them. Let your daughter know that it’s okay to follow a path no one in your family dared to follow. 👣
I used to tell my daughter, she could be whomever she wanted and not to let anyone (including me) tell her she couldn’t do what she wanted with her life. That’s the legacy that I want for all girls.
Show the girls, teens and young women (that you interact with) how amazing they are now, and how far they can go with their lives. That’s what women’s history is all about.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Summer’s Almost Over – Are You Where You Want to Be?
Have you ever stopped for a moment and thought about some of the things that you’ve accomplished? If your answer is no I completely understand. Usually that’s me too! I am so busy creating and accomplishing, that I don’t think about my achievements. However today is August 1 and the summer is coming to an end. I started thinking about what I’ve accomplished this summer and what it means to me.
I am super passionate about great relationships between parents and their children and have written several books about how achieve the relationship that you want with your children and your parents. This summer I’ve been writing a relationship book about fathers and daughters. While I’ve had some tears, I’ve had some laughter too as I think about my dad and my relationship with him.
You see, I grew up in the 60s, where adults could tell you what to do and you did it. That was a time where your village existed within the neighborhood you lived in, and you had more than one set of parents because every adult could tell you what to do. Parenting then was very different from what’s taking place today – the safety of the villages has all but disappeared.
But back to my father-daughter book. I didn’t think I had a lot to write about my relationship with my dad, until I began writing. His parenting style was quite a bit different from my mother’s and equally important for my growth into womanhood. Dad didn’t sugarcoat what he said, and I knew I could trust him. He was like most dads who don’t provide frills and flowery words to us, but they say what we (daughters) need to hear. 
I can’t wait until my book is ready to share with you. As a matter fact, I will be hosting a father – daughter discussion on August 6 from 7 to 9 PM here in Chicago. Here is the link if you want to attend this free discussion: daddaughtertalk.eventbrite.com. I would love for you to join me. #FathersandDaughtersRock
So… Are you where you want to be?
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
How Do You Manage Anger?
Dealing with anger and its repercussions can be very challenging. Being unaware of how to handle irritating and stressful situations may be a reason for many fits of anger and rage. Most people, except for young children and (possibly) teens, recognize their problem with uncontrollable anger. Although there are many anger management activities which would enable them to better cope with confrontational situations, some people are unaware of these techniques and activities.
There are many anger management activities that parents and their children can practice or participate in when attempting to cope with daily feelings of anger.
One activity which is recommended for anger management is exercise. Exercise has been proven to have a positive impact on a person’s mood. Exercise helps an individual to decrease any negative feelings they might be experiencing. An effective anger management activity might be as simple as going for a walk or jog in the park. Visiting the gym to work out of taking part in their favorite sport may work well for an individual as an anger management activity. Taking a hike or spending a few hours in the beauty of nature would definitely allow a person to clear their head and release tension. Outdoor anger management activities can create an environment of serenity.
Anger management activities such as attending a support group, camp or retreat would help people who are experiencing difficulties controlling their anger. One positive aspect of attending anger management activities allows the person to see that their problem is not unique; that it is shared by plenty of other people. Being able to share with people in similar situations might be the key to anger management for some individuals. Sharing would likely provide hope through success stories. In anger management activities such as these, people are forced
to deal with their anger issues through various activities group sessions and one on one consults.
Anger management activities are recommended when dealing with children who are coping with anger or loss issues. A child is unlikely to respond well to group sessions and perhaps even become bored with one on one consultations. Finding activities which are interesting and even challenging may be a better alternative. Kids enjoy fun and games. Designing anger management games which are enjoyable yet beneficial would be so much more effective than forcing a child to sit down with an anger management counselor. Worksheets, coloring pages, individual games as well as interactive games would be accepted much better by children than a trip to the psychiatrist. When children are involved, it is essential to approach the problem carefully. Being overbearing will not go over well with kids. When considering anger management activities for kids, it is essential to be mindful that they are only children and the approach is important.
When considering anger management activities, choose ones which you find interesting and enjoyable. Sticking a person in an unfamiliar setting may create additional feelings of anger or isolation, neither of which is the intention of anger management activities. Finding an activity that works should be the key focus. I will be hosting a free parenting class on anger and grief on June 1, 2018 at Dyett High School through Parent University. Registration is highly recommended due to class size: dyettparentu.eventbrite.com
C. Lynn Williams
#MsParentguru & Founder of Finding Superwoman™
If You Are A Too Busy Working Mom…
Have you ever felt completely at your wits end because you had a project due at work or in your business, and your 
daughter needed you? I’ve been there and remember how difficult it was to make the choice to spend time with her. Yes I chose my daughter. Because there will ALWAYS be a project, a meeting, an event to attend.
Here’s the million dollar question! What’s the consequence if you don’t spend time when she needs (wants) you? Will she want to talk a week, month or year later? Will what was so important to her to share with you today, matter in six months (when you have more time)?
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentGuru
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Gun Violence Begins at Home
Growing up in the 50’s and 60’s, all I wanted was to be accepted for who I was – glasses and all, and look like my best girlfriend Susan. What I later learned is that it wouldn’t have mattered what I looked like, because most kids wanted to look like or be someone else.
While most of my friends had strict parents, I didn’t have any close friends (that I knew of) whose parents were verbally (or physically) cruel. I say that because as a kid we had parental permission to visit our close friends and I often watched how my friends’ moms and dads interacted with them. Yes I’ve been fascinated with family dynamics since I was a kid. I know what it’s like to grow up in a house where you’re constantly criticized or made to feel bad for who you are. I’ve seen it firsthand. As a child, it feels awful to be constantly criticized.
I also feel sorry for parents who expect to have (what they consider to be) normal kids, who aren’t. Maybe the child is sick, disabled/handicapped or have a different sexual orientation. It’s understandable to expect your child to grow up and be awesome! All parents want that. But when your child grows up and chooses a career or life that you did not expect or don’t value as acceptable, what do you do?
I believe you internalize your disappointment and think you’ve failed as a parent. Depending on your upbringing, you become critical of that young man or woman and say hurtful things that create division and separation. But let me tell you what can happen to that young man or woman; they feel rejected and hurt. You may never hear those feelings because it’s not safe for them to share them with you. If the dynamics in your household is violence and anger, they internalize that too.
Think about it! The gun violence over the last 6 years has often been random and impersonal. As a kid, if you haven’t been hugged, kissed or told how much you are loved (by your parents); if your only validation was to be told ‘How stupid you are’, ‘You’ll never amount to anything’, ‘I wish you were never born’ or ‘Shut up’; you’re ignored or beaten, it is easy to see how you would internalize those feelings and become bitter.
Anytime I read or hear about a mass or random shooting, I wonder what kind of environment that person grew up in. Were they loved, nurtured and well-cared for? Or were they allowed to do their own thing and somewhat ignored because their parents worked (a lot), didn’t know how to reach out to them, didn’t care. 
I am truly sorry for the mass shootings in Orlando, as well as the daily shootings in Chicago. Folks wake up! It’s not too late to reestablish a loving relationship with your child – no matter how old they are. ♥♥
Interested in learning more about your family’s dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for aging parents, Mothers and Daughters or Mothers and Sons. Email me at: info@clynnwilliams.com
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Coach & Author
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Publishing, 2013)
Yours & Mine: The Winning Blended Family Formula (220 Publishing, 2015)
Teaching Millennial Young Women…OMG
I have been absent from this blog for the last month. Hard to believe, but it’s true and I apologize to those of you who look forward to my weekly posts. I have a good excuse though; I’ve been teaching a group of young ladies that have given me a run for my money. Call them young female millennials.
These young women are outspoken, opinionated, oppositional and hard to love. Many of them have dysfunctional relationships with their mothers – they have said “I hate my mom”, don’t respond well to rules and have very short attention spans.
I took it personally at first and couldn’t understand why I was dealing with this type of student. Then I realized that many of you have these young girls or women in your home. These are your daughters and they are not easy to parent or get close to. There are many reasons explaining why our daughters appear distant from us. It could be the fast pace of social media; how women and girls are portrayed in the media, or the inattention that they receive at home from us their mothers and fathers when we’re busy.
I know we have to change our mindset in order to reach this generation. They love technology. That means we can’t hate technology and expect to stay in touch with our girls. Whether it’s through texting, emailing, Face-timing or Facebook messages, talk to your girls and let them know you love them and are there for them.
While the attitudes of these students were enough to make me think about retiring early; I realized that I was being given an opportunity to do what I love to do – get close and share my love with this millennial generation – your daughters. There are all kinds of things going on in their young lives. Some good; some not so good. They just need to know that someone really cares and is listening. No matter what type of outward attitude they give off.
Keep the lines of communication open Moms…your daughters really are listening.
Interested in learning more about your family’s dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for millennial daughters, aging parents, or mothers and sons.
Email me at: info@clynnwilliams.com
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author, Coach & Family Dynamics Specialist
www.clynnwilliams.com
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Publishing, 2013)
NEW: Yours & Mine: A Winning Blended Family Formula (220 Publishing, 2015)
Want A DREAM Prom?
I love prom season. The dresses, hair, make-up, shoes, beautiful couple, 
everything. The downside was when it was time for my daughters to attend prom, there were so many expenses, and prom dresses were priced as expensively as wedding dresses! Oh well… proms are still beautiful events, just create a budget and work with your daughter on what you are willing to spend.
I was recently contacted by OXY® Acne Medication about a prom sweepstakes that they are offering to high school girls. Please read and share this information with your daughter and take pictures of your daughter and her date, as well as reach out to me on social media should she win the sweepstakes. 
Pick up a specially marked package of OXY® Treatment Pads which contain a sticker and a code that can be entered at www.oxydreamprom.com for a chance to win a Dream Prom or one of hundreds of prizes from companies such as PromGirl.com, Tuxedo Junction, Shutterfly, and Nikon, as well as gift cards that can be redeemed for hair styling, limo rental, and more.
Beginning today, visitors to www.oxydreamprom.com can also log in to vote for their favorite user-submitted promposals. The winner will receive a Dream Prom prize package worth more than $2,000. Here’s a link to the press release detailing the sweepstakes: http://www.businesswire.com/news/home/20150420006408/en/OXY%C2%AE-Acne-Medication-Helps-Teens-Prom-Ready-Skin#.VTVN7mZicQF
Want to learn more about ways to have a great relationship with your 
daughter? Contact Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about her inspiring parenting programs for aging parents, Mothers and Daughters or Mothers and Sons. Email: info@clynnwilliams.com
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Generational Development Strategist
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Publishing, 2013)
Desperate for Love…
Some of us marry to close that gaping hole. Others of us have sex early in our lives; maybe we have children (earlier than we are ready) that we hope will love us and fill that void. 
What we find is that NOTHING fills that void like a relationship with God. But as little girls, before we know God, we know our parents. As I watch programs like Being Mary Jane… or any reality show that deals with society’s view of relationships, I want you to know is that, the very first love that a young girl knows is with her father. She determines that by how much he provides emotional support and is present in her life. The second but equally important relationship is her relationship with her mother. Here she learns what is acceptable and what isn’t. Programs like Empire or Scandal may be entertaining, but the situations are fake. We have to teach our daughters that those are actors, who are paid to act a certain way. Teach them not to idolize the lifestyle shown in these programs; this is not real life.
If we want daughters that grow up without gaping holes, we must tell them w
e love them. We must show them we love them by making time for them and being patient as they grow and mature. We have to use words that heal instead of those that tear down. She is not a little b*&^%! If we want them to respect themselves, we (women) have to upgrade our standards for ourselves by walking away from dysfunctional relationships. Not every man is the one for you. If he is married, leave him alone. Take time to take care of you. Let’s focus on taking care of our bodies, mind and spirit too.
Let’s move away from desperate, damaged and defeated to caring, courageous, and CONFIDENT!
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Generational Development Strategist
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Publishing, 2013)
Staying Sane While Raising Your Teens 
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