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Today, We’re Doing the Best We Can – And That’s Enough
Ever have one of those days where even your coffee needs a coffee?
Yeah… same here.
Parenting isn’t always polished. Some days we’re superheroes, and other days we’re hiding in the bathroom just to breathe for 2 minutes. (No judgment — we’ve all done it.)
Here’s the thing: your love, effort, and presence matter — even on the messy days. Especially on the messy days.
So if the dishes are still in the sink, your teen gave you attitude before breakfast, or your toddler is on their third meltdown of the hour… take a breath. You’re not failing. You’re just parenting.
Let’s give ourselves (and our kids) a little more grace today.
💜 P.S. If today feels heavy or uncertain, know this: you are not alone.
Whether you’re raising littles, guiding teens, or navigating adult children – you’re doing your best.
And that is enough.
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Let’s keep giving ourselves (and our kids) the grace to grow.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Your Presence is the Gift, Your Wisdom the Legacy
In a world that celebrates doing, fixing, and achieving, it’s easy for grandparents to feel like they have to “do it all” for their grandchildren—bake the cookies, show up at every event, solve the problems, and protect little hearts from ever hurting.
But let’s take a breath and remember this truth: Your presence is the gift. Your wisdom is the legacy.
As a grandparent, you don’t have to compete with Pinterest-perfect snacks or try to parent all over again. What your grandkids really need—what they will remember long after the toys and treats—is you.
They’ll remember how you made them feel safe. How your hug melted their worries.
How you listened—really listened—without judgment or distraction.
How you shared your stories, even the hard ones, because they helped your grandchildren know they come from strong, resilient people.
I know this because I had a “Goose”.
That’s what I called my grandmother.
If you’ve ever played Hide & Seek, you know the feeling—when you finally reach the “Goose,” you’re safe.
That’s exactly what my grandmother was to me. Her home was peaceful and loving, a soft place to land when life felt too loud. Somehow, she seemed to peer into my soul and just know when my worlds were colliding.
She didn’t have to say much. She was calm, steady, and deeply present.
She was my heart. ❤️✌️
So if you ever wonder whether you’re doing “enough,” remember this: showing up with love and wisdom is enough.
In fact, it’s everything.
💬 Reflect & Share:
Think back to a moment with your grandparent—or a grandparent figure—that left a lasting impression on you. What did they say or do that made you feel deeply loved or understood?
👉🏽 Share your memory in the comments. Or, if you’re a grandparent, tell us: What legacy do you hope to leave your grandchildren?
Want to learn more about how to get along with your family members? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and Sons.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
How Your Child Feels about A Back-to-School Workspace
Think back to your first day of school? What was it like?
I remember having a new pair of shoes and school supplies. I also remember having a desk and meeting new classmates.
At home we had after school routines to follow. They weren’t new because we followed them all the time. One of those routines was – DO YOUR HOMEWORK 1st!
I shared a bedroom with my kid sister. We didn’t have a desk in our room, so we did our homework at the kitchen table. There were a few times that homework was not completed before dinner, but that happened once I got to high school.
Fast forward to 2021!
We have operated in a remote learning environment for the last 15 months and many of you have opted to continue home schooling or having your son or daughter attend school remotely.
If your child is attending school remotely, be sure to establish a specific place in your home for them to attend school and complete their homework. 📝📚
Help them understand how important this space is, and most important- how excited you are for what they will accomplish and learn during this school year.
If they are attending school in-person, that dedicated space will still be necessary for them to complete homework and projects.
Remind them to keep it neat and organized.
By the way, let their brothers and sisters know that they are not to “borrow” (or destroy) any school supplies without permission.
Have a wonderful, successful school year with your child.
I help parents build the kind of communication and trust that allow parent-child relationships to grow and feel better. 😘
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C. Lynn Williams
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The Point of Differences
In families there are lots of differences. Differences include size, eye color, skin color, gender, personality, likeability. As we know, some of those differences are easier to relate to than others. We tend to gravitate to people who are more like us than those who are different. Think about that child of yours who is harder to relate to or even love, because they think differently than you.
When my children were young, they always wanted to know ‘which one of them was my favorite?‘ ‘Who did I love the best?‘ I used to tell them that I didn’t have a favorite (child) because I believed there was no room for favorite children. I did not want to raise a child with whom I created self-esteem issues because of establishing favorites. 😁 As far as I was concerned, I loved them equally, even if for different reasons.
I believe that’s the task that we are facing as a race of people right now, especially in the United States. Somehow, people feel that differences – the very things that make you unique; also make you inferior. It’s hard to teach a child, that skin color, gender and religion don’t matter, if those differences are being used to create division and discrimination.
It doesn’t matter if my skin is darker or lighter than yours, or if my gender is male, female or non binary, or if I’m a Muslim and my neighbor is a Christian. We matter because we are humans –1st and citizens of our respective countries 2nd. Let’s be each other’s keepers, and support each other’s struggles.
Together we are successful.
Operating separately is lonely and takes longer. We ALL Matter!
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Why I Do What I Do
I never really understood what my mother went through with me as a strong-willed daughter until I had my own children. After the childhood I had, I never wanted kids of my own. Kids were worrisome, needy and a pain in the neck! And they were yours forever! No I didn’t want children of my own. However after 3 -4 years into my first marriage, I knew I wanted somebody that looked like me. Sound selfish? Yes I’ll admit it was probably selfish. It didn’t help that my parents and my in-laws were constantly asking – “WHEN ARE YOU HAVING KIDS?”
So my parenting journey began. From the beginning I believed that children were little adults with opinions and thoughts of their own. As idealistic as that sounds, I always wanted to give my kids an opportunity to speak openly and honestly. My parenting ideas were not well-received by my mom and her generation, because children were seen and not heard when she was a child. An out-spoken kid was considered a disrespectful one. As a mom, I was more concerned with raising leaders and critical thinkers, not followers. 
While my parenting journey began in the middle ‘80s, my career as an author began a decade later. A painful divorce and family relocation left me with co-parenting responsibilities as well as the challenge of parenting with adults who had entirely different philosophies of what being a parent meant. I was an old school parent with 21st century parenting ideas. Basically, I believed in eating dinners together, kids that obeyed, and bed times with technology turned off. I also encouraged my kids to talk because I wanted to hear what they were thinking and that they had a right to be heard. It’s hard to run a company or manage a city, if you’ve never been taught to think on your own.
This time of COVID-19 quarantine is a challenging time for many reasons. Men and women are working from home and parenting from home. For some parents, that’s a new skill-set that you are building. Normally you spend 5-6 hours per day with your children. With the quarantine in place, you’re spending 24 hours per day with your children AND you’re trying to work 
from home. How’s that working? Not so bad, if your child is school age and can work on his or her own. You can put together a family plan that gives your child time to complete school work, family time together and mom/dad work time.
If your child is under five years of age, your parenting skills are getting a great workout. Your day is structured to include lots of interactivity with your child, nap time and consistent meal times. I know work is important, because that’s how you support your family. However, if I had to choose between working or spending time with kids, I’d say make the time with your child first. Build memories that your son or daughter will talk about for the rest of their life. Have as much fun and meaningful time as possible. If your job requires daily online meetings, work around that work meetings and do something physical with your children every day.
So why do I do what I do as a parent? I do what I do, because my children are part of the next generation and I care about their success as humans.
Stay safe and healthy!
Interested in learning more about your family’s dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for Aging Parents, Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and their Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and their Sons.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
What Happened to Our Sex Life?
When marriage first starts, you can’t stop touching each other. And then there’s the sex. That is never a problem, until you get into the throes of child-rearing, or money gets tight and while trying to figure that out, you forget about the intimacy.
A few months ago, I had a conversation with one of my daughters who said “Mothers don’t share enough of the challenges of being a wife and mother.” I tried not to get defensive, but as I continue to think about her comment, I think about things I wish my mother shared with me.
When you talk to women who have been married for years, they say things like:
“Cherish your husband.”
“Nurture your marriage”.
“Trust God to bring you through”.
Depending on the stage of life you are in, you experience hot flashes and nobody says – your body goes from 98.7 F to 150.7 in seconds and you feel slightly insane! Does anybody bother to tell you that parts of you dry up and have to be hydrated with over-the-counter products? No, of course not! Nice women don’t tell their business…
One day you wake up and the hot flashes are gone… Yay… But the sex (and possibly the desire for it) has disappeared too! How in the world is that possible? And more importantly, how do women stay married during “such a time as this”?
Interested in learning more about women as mothers? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru. Look for our upcoming Modern Moms Love Themselves conference. Click Here to become a part of my parenting community.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
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