What Happened to Our Sex Life?
January 31, 2020 at 5:00 pm 2 comments
When marriage first starts, you can’t stop touching each other. And then there’s the sex. That is never a problem, until you get into the throes of child-rearing, or money gets tight and while trying to figure that out, you forget about the intimacy.
A few months ago, I had a conversation with one of my daughters who said “Mothers don’t share enough of the challenges of being a wife and mother.” I tried not to get defensive, but as I continue to think about her comment, I think about things I wish my mother shared with me.
When you talk to women who have been married for years, they say things like:
“Cherish your husband.”
“Nurture your marriage”.
“Trust God to bring you through”.
Depending on the stage of life you are in, you experience hot flashes and nobody says – your body goes from 98.7 F to 150.7 in seconds and you feel slightly insane! Does anybody bother to tell you that parts of you dry up and have to be hydrated with over-the-counter products? No, of course not! Nice women don’t tell their business…
One day you wake up and the hot flashes are gone… Yay… But the sex (and possibly the desire for it) has disappeared too! How in the world is that possible? And more importantly, how do women stay married during “such a time as this”?
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker
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Velvetta Young | February 2, 2020 at 1:37 am
Thank you for your hindsight on this topic. As we get older it does appear that the bodies of our youth have went by the wayside. However, when one finds one self “not in the mood” I give myself self love. I light a candle, run bath water, take a glass or the bottle (depending on my day) and count my blessings. But please don’t get me wrong NOTHING takes the place of great sex!
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C. Lynn Williams | February 2, 2020 at 1:45 pm
Ms. Young, I wholeheartedly agree with you. Part of maturity means finding ways to please ourselves. ☺️