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The Heartbreak of Suicide: Why Moms Need Support Too
The author reflects on a tragic incident involving a mother who drowned her children and herself, emphasizing the importance of heeding cries for help. Amid rising suicide rates, especially among vulnerable groups, the post urges compassion toward those struggling. It highlights the need for support, self-care, and encouragement, particularly for mothers.
Continue Reading September 24, 2025 at 8:24 pm Leave a comment
Fostering Connection Through Creativity: A Lesson from My Childhood
Divorce can deeply impact children, altering their sense of stability. Through “Culture Night,” a creative weekly ritual, a mother fostered security and connection amidst family changes. This legacy highlights the importance of consistent, small creative moments in parenting. Join a LIVE Q&A on fostering family closeness after divorce for further insights.
Stop Missing Out on Vital Father-Son Time
The significance of father-son relationships is underscored by personal experiences of missed connections. Strong emotional bonds foster stability and personal growth in sons while allowing fathers to model positive behaviors. By being present, showing vulnerability, and encouraging independence, fathers can build lasting connections that influence future generations positively.
Continue Reading October 22, 2024 at 5:30 pm Leave a comment
Teaching Your Child to Respond Instead of Reacting
Temper tantrums in young children is expected, until that child grows up and still throws tantrums. Here are tips to help them respond instead of reacting.
Continue Reading January 12, 2024 at 2:33 pm Leave a comment
How to Handle the Holiday Blues
Helping others can lift your spirits. Consider volunteering to a charitable cause in your community.
Continue Reading December 7, 2023 at 5:52 pm Leave a comment
Thankful for Thanksgiving & It’s Memories
During one of my Thanksgiving blogs a few years ago, I must’ve written too much about positive family experiences. My daughter commented that not everybody had positive experiences at Thanksgiving, and I needed to be mindful of that. 😩
Since I write about how to build and maintain family lives and great relationships, I just chalked up her comments as “her feelings” and moved on. This year we’ve had new members join our family, new babies being born, and I thought about the people in my life who are no longer there; my mom, my dad, and various other favorite people that I miss dearly.
So I walked down memory lane, and thought about past Thanksgivings from my childhood, including some of the more traumatic experiences that my family has lived through. I thought of my father‘s alcoholic binges on Thanksgiving. I didn’t understand it as a kid, but I now realize, how unhappy he must’ve been. I thought about my brother who every Thanksgiving was in ER, under suicide watch. How unhappy he was, and how afraid we were for him.
The people around us really shape life as we know it. What we must decide on is whether we are going to live as victims, remembering those experiences forever, by staying stuck. Or are we going to remember them, our family members, and move forward in spite of the traumas. As my maternal grandmother used to say, “be somebody”.
Please take some time this Thanksgiving holiday to be available to talk to family or friends who may be having a hard time with the holiday seasons. They could be experiencing a season of loss or doubt, and a call or text message from you may be just what they need to stay encouraged.
As for me, I choose to write about how to have healthy relationships with family members, and why it’s important. ❤️🩹
Wishing you and yours, a very Happy Thanksgiving 🍁🦃🍽
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Give Them Something To Believe In
Life is funny, you leave one crisis, and move into a second or third one.
This week I’m thinking about boys… yes, our sons. And the challenges some of them face growing up.
For the last several years, we have experienced a number of young men losing their life to gun violence. Violence of being shot by rivals and violence due to police shootings. Last year (2020), not only did we experience over 600,000 people who died from COVID-19, we also watched as the number of black boys and men who were shot and killed by police, increased.
Toward the end of 2020, many cities noticed a rash of crimes where people were being carjacked and robbed or killed. Many of these crimes were committed by young men, some as young as 11 or 12. It makes you wonder what kind of direction or guidance they are receiving at home?
I had firsthand knowledge of guidance for a young boy.
My little brother…
I think back to my brother and how he responded to my mom and dad’s divorce. He was young, about 11 years old and missed having Dad at home. He was angry and felt alone.
He started getting into trouble.
A lot. Getting into trouble in those days, meant being disrespectful, destroying somebody’s property, or stealing. Our dad wasn’t coming by for regular visits, but if my mother called about my brother, Dad would come and discipline him.
My brother was so unhappy that he began trying to take his life. (Thank God he was unsuccessful.) He also began hanging out with the “bad boys” in the neighborhood.
My mother sold our house and moved to a different neighborhood.
Who can say what kind of stress these boys are undergoing at home?
- It could be due to financial issues.
- Maybe the stress is verbal or physical.
- Your son could be dealing with depression.
- Perhaps he is reacting to deaths of people he knows due to COVID-19, domestic or gun violence. If his family has gang affiliation and the violence is orchestrated by gang leaders, imagine how stressful that could be.
How do you help your son if he is facing any of these (or other issues)? What do you do if he’s going through male teen angst? Maybe he’s exhibiting disrespectful, aggressive, violent behavior or mood swings.
What happens if you can’t change neighborhoods?
Try these five things before giving up or seeking professional help:
- Schedule Time With Your Son – talk frequently and spend regularly scheduled time with him and keep his schedule jam-packed with school, sports, clubs, time with friends, and after-school jobs.
- Set a Sleep Routine – it’s easier being a teen if he’s getting enough sleep.
- Get Moving – the last thing a moody teen wants to do is get up and move, but it’s one of the best ways he can feel better.
- Listen Without Lecturing – resist the urge to lecture your son. Listen with an open mind.
- Keep Your Cool – take a deep breath, keep your cool and find a way to communicate without lashing out.
Find an honorable, trustworthy male mentor that he can talk to, when he can’t talk to you. Remember to model healthy ways to handle stress. Take good care yourself.
I help parents build the kind of communication and trust that allows parent-child relationships to grow and feel better through coaching and parent classes. Email me for more information: info@clynnwilliams.com 😘
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Six Tips for Being Better Parents
Avoid harsh discipline
Explain your role and decisions
Be involved in your child’s life
Guide your child through their mistakes and weaknesses
Live in the now
Be a parent, not pal
Happy birthday to my amazing first-born, **Candace**, who started me on this journey of parenting and being better. The first child is lucky because s/he pulls love and emotions out of you that you never knew existed. They are also your “experiment” child. You try techniques, other people’s thoughts and that firstborn is like a stew of everyone’s ideas of how you should raise your child.
Just remember that this is your child!
Follow your gut!
Have fun!
Make wonderful memories together!
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
It Is Okay to Feel What You’re Feeling
We’ve been quarantined for 7 weeks now. It’s okay to express what you’re feeling.
How to Stay Positive
This is a strange time right now, if my mom were alive, we would say “Mercury is retrograde”. If you’re a feeling type, you may just ‘feel’ strange. For me, I watch patterns. I’m used to things flowing evenly and smoothly, so when I start to misplace items, or the people around me become weird, I pay attention to myself and them. Sometimes, my intuition takes over and I feel uncomfortable with my environment, or my social community – the world. That’s definitely happening right now. Besides clients telling me how overwhelmed they feel, I’m reading (or hearing) news reports about more killings and suicides. 
While I know we are not responsible for other people, sometimes those within your circle of influence will say things in an effort to ask for help. I’ve had it happen with my children, my students and friends. If they needed more than a listening ear, I referred them to a (school) social worker or psychologist.
What about you? How do you stay positive when your personal world is turning upside down? Taking a page from one of my thought leaders who deals with mindful-living, here are five things happy people do (to stay positive):[1]
- They don’t tie happiness to external events
- They exercise – exercise is shown to help with depression by raising endorphins. Endorphins trigger a positive feeling in the body, which makes you feel good.
- They have close relationships; ideally 3-5 with people whom they can discuss important ideas or problems
- They spend money on experiences not things
- They don’t ignore negative emotions. Sometimes we will tell ourselves that we are imagining the problems and if we ignore them, they will go away. Not true! When you won’t allow yourself to grieve, get angry or feel disappointed, it stuffs those emotions down deep and they will surface much later, when you least expect it.
We are wonderful, complex people, living in a fast-paced, highly technical, global fishbowl. We are subject to make mistakes, lots of them and it’s not the end of the world when we do. Many of us have been taught that a project isn’t complete unless it is perfect. There is no such thing as perfect – especially to entrepreneurs, inventors and creatives. It is just as important to have fun as it is to work. Interact with people that you enjoy.
Talk to someone when you feel you can’t go on.
Interested in learning more about your family’s dynamics? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting programs for Aging Parents, Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and their Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and their Sons.
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[1] https://hackspirit.com/7-habits-authentically-happy-people-nothing-positive-thinking-3/
Staying Sane While Raising Your Teens 
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