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Critical Kids = Critical Adults

As parents, we think a lot about how our children speak to us and how they behave. We correct them when they need discipline, and we make sure they use good manners and steer them away from rude behavior.

But we may not always pay attention to what we say and how we say it., when we talk to our kids (or our spouses). It’s easy to hide behind “I’m just telling the truth” or “I’m just saying…”

I grew up in an environment where I was constantly reminded of what I had not done. It created an insecurity that I struggled with into adulthood. You know the one where you are obsessed with pleasing others?

Remember the phrase “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but names can never hurt you”?

Lies! Lies! Lies!

Speaking harshly to our kids, teaches them that that’s how they are supposed to be spoken to and treated. If it doesn’t crush their spirit to love and give freely, it teaches a more sinister message… that it’s okay to be mean to the people you love.

That is not the message we want our children to share as they grow up. If this was the message you learned as a child, talk to a licensed professional. Better yet enroll in my Healing the Wounded Daughter coaching program. I help parents build the kind of communication and trust that allows parent-child relationships to grow and feel better.

“I’m proud of you… “ goes a long way to empowering your child and building self-esteem.⁠ 😘

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C. Lynn Williams

May 21, 2021 at 1:59 pm Leave a comment

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