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The Heartbreak of Suicide: Why Moms Need Support Too
The author reflects on a tragic incident involving a mother who drowned her children and herself, emphasizing the importance of heeding cries for help. Amid rising suicide rates, especially among vulnerable groups, the post urges compassion toward those struggling. It highlights the need for support, self-care, and encouragement, particularly for mothers.
Continue Reading September 24, 2025 at 8:24 pm Leave a comment
Breakfast, a Cell Phone, and Space Between Fathers & Sons
Today, before I started working on this semester’s classes, my husband and I went out for breakfast. We were enjoying our meal when I noticed a young man—late teens, maybe early 20s—come in, get his breakfast, and sit alone at a table.
About 30 minutes later, a middle-aged man walked in. He took his time getting coffee and a danish before finally sitting at the same table as the young man. I assumed right away that they were father and son.
Here’s the part that caught my attention: the man stayed on his cell phone almost the entire time. He barely acknowledged the young man. No small talk. No eye contact. Just scrolling and talking. After a while, he tossed his coffee cup, stepped outside, and continued his call.
Now, maybe I should have minded my own breakfast. But my extroverted side got the best of me. I told my husband, “I’m going to see if he’ll talk to me.”
I walked over, smiled, and asked if I could join him. I told him I was writing a book about fathers and sons, and I was curious about his interaction with the man who’d just left. Was that his father?
“Yes,” he said, and explained that his dad was on a work call. No big deal. “We’re very close.”
I thanked him for his time and returned to my table.
On the way out, my husband made a good point: “You know, he would never tell you if he was annoyed or having problems with his dad. That’s not guy language to share with a stranger.”
That stuck with me. How many moments do fathers and sons spend together without really connecting—either because one is distracted, or because neither is in the habit of speaking openly? How often does love go unspoken because “that’s just not how guys talk”?
I believe those small everyday moments matter. Even if it’s just coffee and a Danish, even if there’s no deep conversation, the choice to be present—fully present—can strengthen a bond in ways words can’t always capture.
It’s moments like these that inspired me to write my upcoming book, Fathers & Sons: Raising Boys Through Dinosaurs, Testosterone & Girls. In it, I share stories, strategies, and real-life insight to help dads not just show up—but truly connect with their sons.
If you’re a father, son, or parent who wants to build that kind of connection, I’d love for you to be part of my community. You can follow me here, or visit clynnwilliams.com to stay updated on the book release and grab free resources for your parenting journey.
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Stop Missing Out on Vital Father-Son Time
The significance of father-son relationships is underscored by personal experiences of missed connections. Strong emotional bonds foster stability and personal growth in sons while allowing fathers to model positive behaviors. By being present, showing vulnerability, and encouraging independence, fathers can build lasting connections that influence future generations positively.
Continue Reading October 22, 2024 at 5:30 pm Leave a comment
Preparing for Back2School: Reducing Screen Time
As the new school year approaches, it’s essential to help your children transition from summer break routines to school-friendly habits. One effective strategy is to gradually reduce screen time in the weeks leading up to the first day of school. Here’s how you can implement this change smoothly:
Gradual Reduction:
Begin by cutting back screen time in small increments each day. For example, reduce screen time by 15 minutes each day. This gradual approach helps children adjust without feeling a sudden loss of their favorite activities.
Establish Screen-Free Evenings:
Designate certain hours in the evening as screen-free times. This could be right after dinner or an hour before bedtime. Use this time for calming activities such as reading, playing board games, or engaging in quiet crafts. These activities not only help in reducing screen dependency but also promote family bonding and relaxation.
Create a Bedtime Routine:
Implementing a consistent bedtime routine is crucial. Encourage activities that help children unwind, such as taking a warm bath, reading a book, or listening to soothing music. This routine signals their bodies that it’s time to prepare for sleep, making the transition smoother.
Be a Role Model:
Children often emulate their parents’ behavior. Show them the importance of balancing screen time by reducing your own usage during family hours. Engage with them in screen-free activities and be present, fostering a healthy environment for your children to follow.
Discuss the Benefits:
Talk to your children about why reducing screen time is important. Explain how it helps them sleep better, improves their focus, and prepares them for the school routine. Understanding the reasons behind the change can make them more cooperative and willing to adjust.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Building Emotional Strength: A Guide for Parents Navigating Anxiety With Their Children
Guest blog provided by Gwen Payne.
When it comes to fostering an emotionally healthy home environment, understanding the profound impact that parental anxiety can have on children is crucial. As parents, this is the first step towards nurturing their resilience and emotional strength. Creating a supportive atmosphere where children can navigate their feelings of anxiety confidently is essential. Today, C. Lynn Williams will delve into several effective strategies designed to help parents recognize signs of anxiety in their children, as well as manage their own stress in ways that promote a positive emotional climate for the entire family.
Signs of Anxiety in Your Child
Vigilance is key in identifying anxiety in children, who may exhibit changes in behavior, mood swings, or physical symptoms such as stomach aches or headaches. By paying close attention to how your child acts in different settings, you can catch early signs of distress. It’s important to approach these signs with openness and without judgment, creating a supportive environment for your child to share their feelings.
Encouraging Open Communication
Creating an environment of open communication and trust is pivotal for supporting your child through moments of anxiety. Strive to make your home a place where your child feels safe discussing their fears and concerns. Active listening and validating their feelings convey understanding and respect, encouraging them to express their worries freely and openly.
Reduce Work Stress
If your current job is causing you anxiety, maybe it’s time to explore how boosting your education could expand your career options. Pursuing online educational opportunities – especially focusing on flexible nurse practitioner programs – could be a great way to earn your online FNP degree. This mode of education not only offers flexibility to manage your caregiving responsibilities but also opens doors to various high-demand fields such as nurse education, informatics, nurse administration, and advanced practice nursing. By tailoring your learning journey to your personal and professional needs, you can alleviate work-related stress and position yourself for a fulfilling career in healthcare, all from the comfort of your home.
Help Children With Coping Skills
Teach your child coping mechanisms and problem-solving skills to handle anxiety-inducing situations with confidence. Introducing strategies such as deep breathing, identifying triggers, and simplifying complex tasks can empower your child. Encouraging them to approach challenges with a problem-solving attitude builds resilience and self-assurance, key components of emotional strength.
Assess & Manage Parental Anxiety
Take time to reflect on your personal anxiety levels and how they might affect your parenting style. Recognizing how your responses to stress can impact your child’s emotional health promotes a thoughtful approach to managing emotions. This self-awareness is essential for reducing the transmission of anxiety to your child and promoting a serene and supportive home atmosphere. By engaging in this introspective process, you can cultivate a healthier dynamic and better support your child’s emotional development.
Prioritizing Parental Self-Care
Self-care is fundamental to effectively managing your anxiety and supporting your child emotionally. Regular exercise, mindfulness practices, and dedicating time to activities you enjoy can drastically enhance your emotional well-being. By making self-care a priority, you ensure that you are emotionally available and supportive of your child’s needs.
Seeking Professional Guidance
If you observe persistent signs of distress in your child, seeking help from mental health professionals may be beneficial. Therapy or counseling can provide both you and your child with strategies to manage anxiety and improve emotional well-being. Professional guidance can be invaluable in navigating the complexities of family anxiety dynamics.
Successfully navigating anxiety with your children involves recognizing their signs of distress, managing your own anxiety, and creating a supportive family environment. Key to this process is open communication, teaching effective coping strategies, and leading by example through healthy stress management practices. By adopting these approaches, you lay the foundation for a resilient and emotionally strong family. Your proactive and aware efforts in managing anxiety can profoundly influence your child’s capacity to thrive emotionally, fostering a sense of confidence and resilience in facing life’s challenges.
C. Lynn Williams is an author, speaker, educator, and parenting coach. Questions? Please email clynn@clynnwilliams.com.
Thankful for Thanksgiving & It’s Memories
During one of my Thanksgiving blogs a few years ago, I must’ve written too much about positive family experiences. My daughter commented that not everybody had positive experiences at Thanksgiving, and I needed to be mindful of that. 😩
Since I write about how to build and maintain family lives and great relationships, I just chalked up her comments as “her feelings” and moved on. This year we’ve had new members join our family, new babies being born, and I thought about the people in my life who are no longer there; my mom, my dad, and various other favorite people that I miss dearly.
So I walked down memory lane, and thought about past Thanksgivings from my childhood, including some of the more traumatic experiences that my family has lived through. I thought of my father‘s alcoholic binges on Thanksgiving. I didn’t understand it as a kid, but I now realize, how unhappy he must’ve been. I thought about my brother who every Thanksgiving was in ER, under suicide watch. How unhappy he was, and how afraid we were for him.
The people around us really shape life as we know it. What we must decide on is whether we are going to live as victims, remembering those experiences forever, by staying stuck. Or are we going to remember them, our family members, and move forward in spite of the traumas. As my maternal grandmother used to say, “be somebody”.
Please take some time this Thanksgiving holiday to be available to talk to family or friends who may be having a hard time with the holiday seasons. They could be experiencing a season of loss or doubt, and a call or text message from you may be just what they need to stay encouraged.
As for me, I choose to write about how to have healthy relationships with family members, and why it’s important. ❤️🩹
Wishing you and yours, a very Happy Thanksgiving 🍁🦃🍽
Want to learn more about how to get along with your family members? Contact me – Ms. Parent Guru to receive information about my inspiring parenting workshops for Mothers and Daughters, Mothers and Sons, Fathers and Daughters or Fathers and Sons.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Teaching Kids About Money
Guest article by Yulissa Asprilla, yasprilla@annuity.org
Teaching your kids about money is an important part of parenting. It is important to start early and give them a basic understanding of money and how it works. You can also help them to understand the importance of investing and the risks associated with it. Finally, you can help them to understand the importance of giving back to the community and how to make charitable donations, It can help them to become financially responsible adults.
Some parents may not feel confident enough in their own financial knowledge to be able to teach their kids about money. Others may think it is inappropriate to discuss money with young children, or mistakenly believe that children are too young to comprehend financial concepts. However, it is important to remember that teaching your children about money is essential to their development, and it is never too early to start.
When to start?
Depending on the age of your child, the conversation may vary. For younger children, you can start by introducing basic concepts such as the value of money, how to save, and how to make wise spending decisions. As your child gets older, you can introduce more complex topics such as budgeting, investing, and credit. It is important to have open and honest conversations with your child about money and to ensure that they understand the value of money and how to manage it responsibly.
How do I convince my kid that college is worth it?
When it comes to convincing your kid that college is worth it, it is important to emphasize the numerous benefits that come with a college education. Explain to your child that college provides them with the opportunity to gain valuable knowledge and skills that will help them succeed in their future career. Additionally, point out the potential for increased earning potential and job security that a college degree can provide. Finally, explain that college is a great way to make long-lasting connections and friendships that can last a lifetime.
Making a Budget
The first step is to help them create a budget that is realistic and achievable. This should include setting a goal for how much money they want to save each month and listing all of their monthly expenses. Once they have a budget in place, they should be encouraged to stick to it. This means avoiding impulse purchases and shopping around for the best deals. They should also be reminded to save any extra money they have left over at the end of the month. Finally, it is important to provide ongoing support and encouragement to help them stay on track. With these steps, they should be able to stick to their budget and reach their financial goals.
Lessons & Activities
We need to teach them that making mistakes in the comfort of their home, could greatly impact their future decisions by giving a sense of importance coming from the use of money. Researchers from the University of Minnesota suggest focusing “children’s education about money on the concepts of earning, spending, saving, borrowing, and sharing.” The University of Arizona doctoral student Ashley LeBaron said in her studies that “Practice Makes Perfect: Experimental learning as a Method of Financial Socialization.”
Software Applications for Teaching Kids About Money
Miata Edoga, president of the financial education company Abundance Bound, told Parentology, “We don’t want our kids to be afraid of spending, or be afraid of managing credit. We want them to feel confident in their ability to negotiate successful financial lives, to come at money from a place of power, rather than fear.”
The information age ushered in new media teaching platforms and introduced the world to the “digital native.” New educational apps for kids are launched regularly. These technological tools use interactivity and gamification to make financial concepts fun for children and teens, Additionally, by Educating kids about core personal finance topics, these apps simulate the digital-era experience of using credit and debit cards, mobile payment methods, and online banking.
Wish your family just said “Thank You Mom” once in a while? Attend my upcoming webinar where I talk about it.
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
Tell Yourself You Are Enough
Telling yourself you are enough is a good start to something better.
Teaching Responsibility versus Perfection
This month I’ve focused on commitment and responsibility within our families, with ourselves as parents, and with our children.
I would not be MsParentguru, if I didn’t mention that many of us grew up with parents who taught us that success meant you did things exactly as you were told – perfectly.
That’s how I was raised.
Thinking back to my childhood, my siblings and I had chores. To deviate from my parent’s expectations was not good! There were consequences. 😩 For example, during the week, I was expected to heat up dinner, by the time my parents got home from work. My sister or brother would set the table.
Being the strong-willed child who stretched the limits of what my mom wanted me to do, I would not focus so much on having dinner ready, I would do something that I thought would make mom happy and proud of me.
Why? 🤷🏽♀️ Kids need the why…
Of course she reprimanded me because I did not do what she expected me to do, but what I felt as a child, was that I couldn’t please my mother.
How many times have you felt like that growing up? If you did exactly what your parents asked you to do they still weren’t pleased with the results? So we have children that suffer with self-esteem issues and I wonder if parents are requiring perfection as a need for control instead of teaching children the bigger picture?
The bigger picture is that there are many ways to complete tasks at home, at school or at work. When we get stuck with how something should be done, it causes issues in our relationship with our kids.
So how do we repair those relationships?
One way is to be really clear about what it is that we want our children to do when we assign tasks or chores – simply saying “clean up your room” could mean that there are no dirty clothes or plates of food underneath the bed or stuffed in the closet.
It might mean that your bed is made and whatever else you want them to do in their room. Once you have explained the task, have your child say back to you what it is that they heard you say so that both of you understand. I certainly remember saying “that’s not what I asked you to do”, and hearing – “Mom that’s what you said.”
Will this strategy work the first couple of times maybe so, maybe not. However, as you work on communicating in a way that they understand and cover it with a lot of love and grace, conversations, and the expectations will get better and better. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what it meant to be a perfect, parent and issues that you may have faced trying to control your child’s responses.
What was missing between my mom and I, was the explanation for why what I did was not good enough. These types of conversations help parents teach responsibility and life lessons to their children without squelching their self-esteem.
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C. Lynn Williams, Ms. Parentguru
Parenting Skills All Moms Need
How many times have you thought that your kids were the worst kids in the neighborhood, but you weren’t sure how to make them more well behaved? 🤔
Reading the news and watching people with their children, I wonder what kind of discussions take place at home. For example, you tell your child “Clean up your room”. You walk by his room an hour later, and not only is it not cleaned up, but he’s also playing a video game.
What do you do?
1. Yell at your child
2. Ignore them
3. Institute consequences
I love instituting consequences because it teaches your child life lessons. The life lesson is that people like dealing with well-mannered people. So, as adorable as your child is (to you), when they mis-behave no one likes them, including you. 🤷🏽♀️
Did you know, the older your child is, the harder it is to teach them manners and good behavior. They are difficult to deal with at school and in public. Then they become the teacher’s problem, or a statistic with law enforcement.
If you ask your child to do something and it’s not done – how do you hold them accountable?
If you don’t hold them accountable, what are the consequences to you and your child?
How do they learn the lesson that you’re trying to teach them?
If you are having a difficult time holding your child accountable, it might seem easier to expect your child’s teacher or another adult to take responsibility for parenting your child. It sends mixed messages to a child when someone else outside of you or your spouse becomes the responsible parent your child. Because that’s what happens when law-enforcement gets involved or the teacher has to discipline your child at school. Instead start when your child is very young, giving consequences that are appropriate for them at their age.
For example, before naptime, show your child how to pick up their toys and put them in the toy box. They cannot take a nap until the toys are in the toybox. My mom used to do that with us. What’s crazy is that I hated taking naps, 😴 so I can’t believe that I was duped into cleaning up my room before I laid down to take a nap that I didn’t want.
But it worked!
If you start when they’re 2-3 years old, by the time they are 5, 6, or 7, they are pretty well mannered.
The other thing about discipline and consistency is that it doesn’t work (as well) if you are not giving your child your attention on a regular basis. If the only time you interact with your child is to discipline, yell or scream at them, then you have lost their attention (and respect) when you want them to be well mannered and obedient.
Let me know how instituting consequences works for you and your child. If you need help, click on the link and let’s talk:
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Parent Coach, Author & Speaker
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