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Which One Are You Today?

It’s funny when your kids are small, you don’t ever want them to grow up. They are so innocent and precious and they listen to our every word. Then the day comes when they start saying things like “I’m grown, I can make my own decisions.” And you realize they are growing up and maybe you should let them (make their decisions). 

Then they change back into a non-adult! They say things like:

  • Can you pay for my phone?
  • Will you complete my FAFSA?
  • Do you have money for me to get my nails done?
  • Can you pay my car insurance?
  • Will you pay my rent?

Wait a minute!

  • I thought you were an adult?
  • Isn’t that what you told me you were?
  • What happened to “I can do this? Please stop telling me what to do!?”

This is the brain of our teenage or twenty-something kid. The problem is that they really don’t want a lessons learned talk, they kinda want to figure it out, but don’t mind asking for your money and support.

My feeling is that when your kid says, “I can do it”, it’s important to let him or her do it. I believe today’s parents don’t want their children to make the mistakes that they made. It sounds good, but isn’t realistic. Growing up means you make mistakes. I made them? You did too. It’s okay. 

Young people today don’t mind making mistakes. They don’t want to be nagged or guilt tripped, but they also want to be rescued when they’ve made a mistake. It’s doesn’t work both ways! Some lessons can only be learned through experience. A daughter who has a child without the security of marriage (against the advice of her parents), takes a risk that she will raise her child alone. A son who wants to play pro ball and decides not to go to college, takes a risk of having an injury (that keeps him from playing) and working the rest of his life as a laborer.

It’s hard watching our children make mistakes especially ones that can follow them for life. It’s harder when they tell you to butt out – let them live their life. Those are hard lessons for us as parents. However, just like our parents had to let us go and grow… we have to do the same thing. A little lesson learning never hurt anybody! Happy 2019!

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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Family Dynamics Strategist, Author & Speaker

www.clynnwilliams.com

January 4, 2019 at 10:14 pm 5 comments

Too Much Going On…

Right now I have a Motivated_Mompreneurslot going on in my life.

I’m running a business, writing books, working full-time somewhere else, managing my household, married to the most wonderful man ever and a hands-on mother. I have to remind myself to take time for myself, just like I tell my coaching clients.

If this sounds like you, reply and let me know. I am launching a four week coaching program (October 2015) for ten Motivated Mompreneurs for people like you and I who are excellent in our business life, but could use a little help balancing everything else. #timeforourselves.

C. Lynn Williams
#MsParentguru

September 1, 2015 at 11:58 am Leave a comment

Moms: Take Time for You!

Like Sarah Hall, it took me a long time to realize just how important it was to take time for myself. Image

Except for a brief period as a stay-at-home mom, I’ve been a full-time working mom, and now, a part-time work from home mom, albeit my youngest is 22. It is only now with everyone out of the nest, that I realize how much I really juggled. When the kids come home to visit (we have had weekly visits from one of the four kids since the summer began), I still drop everything and support them, either by cooking, making sure all that they need is there for them or being available to talk and run errands.

I love taking baths, but hadn’t taken one in months until Sunday, when the house was quiet, and nobody “called that magical name – Mom”.

“There’s a lot on my plate, juggling the lives and schedules of my girls, along with my own work and household responsibilities. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day requirements. And it’s easy to think that that solo trip to the grocery store is actually “me time,” which is about all that I made time for a long time.” http://www.wral.com/parenting-tips-why-moms-need-to-take-time-for-themselves/12641055/

Take time for you! Get a manicure and a pedicure, go for a long walk or bike ride, take yourself to lunch, read a good book. Your psyche will appreciate it and you will have so much more to give to your children, because your emotional cup will be full as opposed to empty.

C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Parenting Coach
www.clynnwilliams.com

 

Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & Hormones! Available in August, 2013

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