Putting Your Teen Out

September 28, 2011 at 10:45 pm 5 comments

Putting Your Teen Out is not a new phenomenon, but it is definitely an option for parents whose teen is not listening, disobeying the household, getting high, drinking excessively, etc. But is that the best option? You may feel that you have no other options but to put that child out of your house, but I encourage you to think about the later ramifications of putting that teen out: relationship, relationship, relationship. There will be none. You are robbed of knowing that child of yours as an adult, an adult with children. Just think long and hard before you kick your son or daughter out of the house.

Just trying to stay sane…

Entry filed under: Discipline, Parenting, twentysomething.

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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Peadar  |  February 1, 2012 at 9:25 am

    What do you do if they just flat out disobey, don’t listen, rebel at everything, help themself to to anything in your room, is a total slob, never helps out around the house, and is just overall, a useless kid who is just wasting everyone else’s life and all because she feels she can leverage her grandmother to agree with her that she doesn’t have to listen to us and at the same time makes our home a living hell and makes it difficult for the younger siblings while being an influence so that they too will become the same? Thank you.

    • 2. clwilliams27  |  February 2, 2012 at 3:37 am

      Hi Peadar,
      The one thing you didn’t say was how old your teen was and whether she attends school or works. It doesn’t matter. When I was growing up, we had to abide by the rules or hit the highway! Make her an offer she can’t refuse. Let her know what the rules are and if she chooses to disobey, she has to find somewhere else to live. The hardest part of your conversation with her, is not going back on your word. If you decide that she has to leave and tell her that, then she must leave. Best regards.

  • 3. Peadar  |  February 2, 2012 at 2:44 pm

    She is 17 (18 in August). That was the way it was in our home too. In fact, I would never have thought of speaking out of turn, nor disregarding my chores and responsibilities around the house either.

    The only challenge right now is getting my wife on board. She’d rather focus on the miniscule moments where our daughter seems to have some kind of decency, but that’s usually when she is going to have fun, got paid, or isn’t having to do any kind of strenuous (sarcasm) exercise.

    I know that if she is allowed to stay, this can only denigrate into a worse scenario than it is at the present. My biggest concern is the influence it can have on the younger siblings.

    My guts are in knots over this and it is not easy but our homes today are just war zones and that just ‘ain’t’ right.

    I appreciate your comments.

  • 5. Peadar  |  February 2, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    Oh, and by the way, she does work part time and attends school when she feels like it, but has never really disciplined herself in this and we have had countless points of contact throughout the years with her teachers and principals, all with whom we have given our support to.


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