Teen Girls will be GIRLS..

April 22, 2013 at 10:48 am 20 comments

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In the last two weeks, I have already read about or been involved with two teen girls who have gotten caught up sexually and been “slut shamed”. One girl was so embarrassed that she didn’t eat for three days and is transferring from the high school where she attends. The other girl committed suicide. Clearly the latter decision, a fatal one is terrible, however teen sex culture is rampant and telling your daughter not to have sex before marriage is not enough. By the way, the term slut shame is how teens respond when they learn that a classmate has been raped. Crazy huh? In the world of adults, it’s called blaming the victim. http://tinyurl.com/bw3d8hr

I believe we (parents, guardians, teachers, and counselors) must use every opportunity as teachable moments to talk to the young ladies in our midst. Watch the reality shows and music videos with our teen girls and talk about the impressions that these types of media are making. Shows like Real Housewives of Atlanta, OC, NJ, etc., portray a negative side of women (and men). The widely watched music videos portray women scantily dressed or waiting by the phone for a guy. Life may be like that, but is that the kind of adult scene you want your teen daughters exposed to?

I often change subjects on my community college students and talk about Life. When we talk about life, any topic is fair game. You would be amazed at their thoughts and ideas!  I recently asked them what they considered sex, and at the answers that I got were pretty weird! It’s common to want attention from your peers. Many girls want that attention by wearing revealing clothing, make-up or hair. Often parents are not home when their daughters leave for school, and are unaware of what they are wearing to school. Not only do we need to know what they are wearing to school, we need to know how they are “carrying” themselves as well. If your daughter thinks that giving sexual treats in the boys’ bathroom between classes is okay – IT IS NOT OKAY! Having a picture taken of her during this type of exploit and sending it to everyone in the senior class (sexting) is also not okay, nor is it a way to gain popularity.

In this highly sexualized culture, we know how very important it is for our young girls to be popular. What we have to do is help our girls learn more acceptable ways to become popular. Appearing sexually enticing will only lead to sexting, loss of reputation, unwanted sexual assaults or ‘too early’ sex, depression..  Just my thoughts.

C. Lynn Williams,
Author and Parenting Coach

Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
How to Turn Your Princess Into a Queen – The Art of Raising an Awesome Daughter (available in late spring, 2013)

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