I Hate My Teenage Daughter – Pt 2
Here’s the gist of the new TV show:
“I HATE MY TEENAGE DAUGHTER is a new family comedy starring Jaime Pressly and Katie Finneran as single moms, best friends – and former nerds – who fear their privileged and overly indulged daughters are turning out just like the mean girls who picked on them in high school.
ANNIE (Pressly), who was raised in an ultra-strict, über-religious household where she had little-to-no freedom, pretty much allows her daughter, SOPHIE (Kristi Lauren), to do whatever she wants. Annie’s best friend NIKKI (Finneran), once an unpopular, overweight social pariah, is now a pretty Southern belle who also allows her daughter, MACKENZIE (Aisha Dee), to do as she pleases.”
Knowing a little more about what the show is about, I don’t have a problem with the show, just a HUGE problem with the title of the show. Considering that sensationalism sells, I don’t like it, but do understand that producers are trying to bring the issue of overindulgence by parents into discussion. As a parent, overindulgence makes you a great parent for the moment, but the feeling doesn’t last, and you send your teen, mixed messages about who you are.
What do you think?
I Hate My Teenage Daughter
As I was surfing the Internet, I saw an ad for a new TV show – I Hate My Teenage Daughter! It starts tomorrow on Fox.
Okay, so I know this is supposed to be funny, but having raised a couple of teenage daughters, there is nothing funny about hating your daughter. They may be challenging; they usually try your last nerves, but lovingly raising your daughter is a wonderful experience! Yes we had arguments and she told me she hated me at least once, but I parented her with love and consistency. I shared my experiences with her and I was honest; there are no subject that was taboo.
I guess I’ll tune in to see what the show is about.
Those of you raising daughters, what do you think? Let’s talk tomorrow…
http://www.fox.com/i-hate-my-teenage-daughter/?&sh=i-hate-my-teenage-daughter
MsParentguru
Parenting and Moral Character
As I continue to hear unfolding stories about the Penn State coach, it seemed to take Penn State students (and mothers – up course) to rally around the victims before the country realized that that was the thing to do. There was a lot of remorse about the removal of the head coach and the university’s president, but as a mother and parent, I wanted more gnashing of teeth about how our moral decline prevented us from recognizing that crimes were perpetrated against young boys – boys who would be scarred for the rest of their life.
How do we effectively parent our children if our leaders and elected officials are more concerned with how something looks in our society versus sending morally correct messages to our children by removing people immediately from their position if they harm our children.
Just my two cents,
MsParentguru
Kindergarteners Getting Suspended?
What’s amazing to me is the different age groups of children who are getting into trouble, to the extent that it becomes newsworthy. The morning talk show, The Talk featured a story about kindergarteners getting suspended in alarming numbers. When I think of kindergarteners, I think of 5 or 6 year olds who are pretty tame and wonderful to work with, assuming you have established groundrules.
Without groundrules and consequences, there is chaos for children of any age. Children, youth, and teens rely on the adults in their lives to establish boundaries to allow them to grow and mature properly. As I say in my new book, The Pampered Prince, if your only consequence to Johnny when he does something wrong is to say “No Johnny”, then you and Johnny have a problem.
What are your thoughts?
The Elusiveness of Predators
Reading that story about the Penn State coach who’s accused of having sex with several young boys, I don’t know if I was more disturbed that the innocence of the boys was stolen forever, or that the head coach and Athletic Dir felt it necessary to hide the truth for a few years; probably shushing the grad advisor who saw and told. In any event, it’s a tragedy on many levels. Those boys (now teens) will never feel safe again and how do we as parents protect our children against sexual predators who are protected by the places that employ them? MsParentguru
Trees Are Like Parents
My favorite tree for the last 10 years is dying. Every several months it loses a major branch due to old age, or high winds. It has been a source of comfort every time I look outside my window and I will miss her when she’s gone. BTW, she’s over 100 years old.
As I saw one of her branches in my front yard, I began to think about how similar trees are to parents. Strong, healthy (mentally & physically) parents have a wealth of knowledge and experiences to share with their children of all ages. When the parents start to falter, hopefully they have had time to see their children grow into adulthood and to pass along the wisdom that God has given them to share. cgw
Dads Are Parents Too
I just heard a commercial explaining that fathers had rights too! In my heart I know that that’s true, but I remembered how absent my father was when he and my mom first divorced. How empty I felt. Where was he? A friend of mine is separated from her husband and when he arranges to see his daughters, he often stays away. Fathers, you are the first love of your daughter. She learns how to treat a man by the way you treat her. Let her know you love and cherish her. Don’t fink out!
Take Time with Family
When I was a young girl, we spent lots of time together as a family. As kids, it was part of our culture, we didn’t question it and we usually enjoyed being together. When I became a teen, my parents made me take my sister (and sometimes my brother) wherever I went. It was a nuisance and I felt I was too old to have them accompany me everywhere. However, my parents knew what they were doing. There was strength and safety in traveling together. It also kept me out of mischief!
Take time with your kids today and as often as possible, so that when they become teens and twentysomethings, they want to spend time with you. Great parenting = great kids!
Putting Your Teen Out
Putting Your Teen Out is not a new phenomenon, but it is definitely an option for parents whose teen is not listening, disobeying the household, getting high, drinking excessively, etc. But is that the best option? You may feel that you have no other options but to put that child out of your house, but I encourage you to think about the later ramifications of putting that teen out: relationship, relationship, relationship. There will be none. You are robbed of knowing that child of yours as an adult, an adult with children. Just think long and hard before you kick your son or daughter out of the house.
Just trying to stay sane…
How to Save Every Teen
Last week I was told that a friend’s son committed suicide. He was preparing to leave for his last year of college the next day. What was so awful in his young life that convinced him life was not worth living?
Let’s not lose another teen/twentysomething to suicide! Talk/listen to your children. Listen to what they have to say! Read Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen – available on Amazon.com and Google books.
Peace to you and your family,
MsParentguru.
Staying Sane While Raising Your Teens 
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