Hey Parents What Are You Wearing?

May 2, 2019 at 3:03 pm 5 comments

When I was growing up, there were certain things that I could wear while playing outside (like shorts) that I couldn’t wear off the block. My mom and dad were really particular about how we looked and the impressions we would make on other people.

Not only was my mother specific about what we wore or didn’t wear, she and dad had a specific way they dressed as well. One of the family rules was no rollers out of the house. which simply meant that your hair was combed and you had on appropriate clothes and shoes. My father was formal (old school) and wore a shirt, usually a tie and pants. Depending on where he was going, he had on a brim. The only time he had on house slippers was in the house.

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There was no way my mother would’ve come out of the house with her house slippers or anything that looked like pajamas either. As she put it, she would never want to embarrass her family’s name or ours.

Fast forward to today’s times where some parents show up to their child’s school dressed really bad! So I wasn’t surprised to read the article yesterday where the Houston principal, Carlotta Brown gave her parents a dress code when coming to school. She was tired of them showing up inappropriately dressed and setting bad examples for her students.

To all of the haters who disagreed with the principal’s rules, saying that it was discrimination against those parents who had low income. I disagree! Have one dress or shirt (blouse) and pair of pants that looks respectable. And wear that – even if you wear the same outfit every time you attend a school event.

It’s really about the kids and the role that you play in your child’s life. It is completely inappropriate to wear see-through clothing around adolescents – your child’s or someone else‘s. Talk about early sex education! “Hey John, I could see through your Mom’s blouse! She’s hot!” How embarrassing is that? Also leave the hair bonnets at home too. They are just to protect the hair while you sleep.

I know you believe that as an adult you can do whatever you want. 

You can! 

Just remember that everything you do reflects back on your children and sets an example (for the rest of their lives) whether you like it or not.

Just my two cents worth.

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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Bruce R. Williams  |  May 8, 2019 at 5:24 pm

    Thanks for that blog C lynn. Research shows that over 66% of what we communicate about ourselves is non-verbal, (this includes our physical appearance). What message do you want to send…

    • 2. C. Lynn Williams  |  June 3, 2019 at 9:07 pm

      Thanks Bruce – you’re right!
      As adults we often believe whatever we do is acceptable behavior… until we see it repeated in our children.

  • 3. Tracey Peters  |  May 8, 2019 at 11:41 pm

    Love this !!! Today so many of us are a cross between the rolled out of bed homeless look to I shop at Nordstroms and am in way to a power meeeting.
    When my son was in grade school a dress code was established as most of the girls were coming to school in pajamas and slippers and their hadn’t seen a comb in days if not weeks, the kids were very unruly and just awful, they had no pride in their appearance and parents felt this was acceptable.
    I believe in being your own person and developing your own style and comfort zone, but their is some guidance and direction needed to build these skills in an appropriate manner.
    Thanks for sharing !

    • 4. C. Lynn Williams  |  May 8, 2019 at 11:56 pm

      Love your comment Tracey! It’s hard to give dress codes to our kid if we don’t adhere to one.

  • 5. ecoluxe malaysia  |  November 12, 2021 at 4:49 pm

    Great post however , I was wondering if you could write a litte more on this topic?
    I’d be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit further.


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